Although BPD is a highly misogynistic and problematic diagnosis, when you're right you're right. My mom has BPD and she acted just like Lori... I was raised by my grandma because my mom pretty much abandoned me to go off and have fun because she was rebellious and didn't want to go to college. Five years later, the b**ch came to take me back, got custody because biology, and booted me back to my grandparents again and again through my childhood years because I was mouthy and I hated her and I acted up on purpose to get away from her. My mom lied all the time, to everyone, for no reason. She believed her own lies too, and she still does. And you can't really confront her in a lie either, it's very frustrating... she'll just deny everything based on facts. You can catch her in "emotional untruths" about how you feel and manipulation but she'll just cry and make everything about her... She can't maintain one steady relationship in her life, yet she has a good relationship with her weird church. She even got mad when I went to college and has had a go at my grandmother and grandfather multiple times for parenting me even though she left me, just because she's jealous, even though they stepped up and she stepped out. My psychiatrist says these types of behavior patterns are typical of extreme BPD persons...
I suspect Lori is the same kind of person.