That’s fair. Questions should still be asked though, else what are we doing here?
Good points. I do think well meaning family often set these funds up as a way to do something to "help", probably with good intentions and without thinking about the possibility of a mess if things go south. At this point, anything they do can be criticized and could look bad....Gimme Funds. Putting in Daughters' Names?
@vaporlasssbm bbm Gimme page now says nephew & FF "are organizing this fundraiser on behalf of" ShMor. IDK what it said previously. Currently nephew says intended uses: Well being of fam; food for fam & volunteers; for housing accommodations for fam; compensating fam & vol's for time spent away from work and w the fam. Who is "family?" Which fam members does that emcompass. BM & 2 daus only? Aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents? I'm sure it's hard to think of everything when setting up one of these campaigns. And this was done just the day after SM was reported missing. What is "well being?" Current version does not say: to pay their everyday living exp's, e.g., food, mortgage, utilities, gas, insurance, car payments, clothing, etc, college tuition & dorm, etc.
Did Nephew previously say anything different re who & what he intended to use $ for? IDK. In setting up Gimme did Nephew consider BM as possibly involved? IDK, even if he did, might seem a weeeee bit awkward for a campaign organizer to solicit $ to pay expenses for two dau's only. Would not evoke image of a Norman Rockwell Thanksgiving family dinner tableau.
Putting it in daughter's name??? Like organizer withdraws $50,000 and writes check, payable to the order of Dau1 And Dau2??? Sounds simple enough, let them deposit $ to bk a/c in their joint names, use as needed? Or maybe split into two a/c's, one a/c for ea teen? Aside from any possible legal issue w anyone not yet of the age of majority & bank a/c's, perhaps there are other issues weighing against giving teens unfettered access to $? Not saying anything about these two, but how many teens are responsible enough to handle that amt of $? And no oversight on what they spend $ on? Is either a 'wild child' or vulnerable to boyfriends' or peer pressure to spend, well, unwisely. Frivolously? Illegally?
Or would Nephew, or trusted fam/friend, deposit $50,000 to a separate, designated a/c, to manage payments for two dau? Or have atty draft a trust agreement w the two teens as beneficiaries, and use Gimme $ to fund it, then w Nephew/bank/atty/fam/friend(?) handling as trustee?
Depending on particulars, there's likely a reasonable arrangement (not a one-size-fits-all solution) to use the $ for their expenses. All they way around and regardless of what has happened to SM, a extreeeemely sad situation for BM, daughters, friends, family and communities in COL. and IND.
A lot of people are referring to this area as "remote." Rural-ish maybe but, as I've stated in previous posts, the house is just 7 miles from Poncha Springs, which is the intersection of Hwy 50 (which goes to Crested Butte) and Hwy 285 (a major North/South thoroughfare). There are several small towns within a 20 mile drive, including Nathrop, Salida, and Buena Vista. The stunning Collegiate Peaks are nearby and the area is a big draw for tourists; lots of whitewater rafting outfitters along the Arkansas River, mountain bikers, hikers, and hunters. And the area has grown so much in recent years that real estate prices are becoming exorbitant. I laugh when I hear someone call it "remote." I live not too far away and, you're right, most people up here have unpaved access roads in keeping with the mountain aesthetic.
and I had to look up what a "chert mine" was : )When I first read the first line of your post I thought it read music instead of muscle, and I read the rest thinking
"what, they do that? why would they have music at a dig?"
then I had to go back and re-read.
I lol'd for real, so thank you for the unintended laugh. Ahem.
I needed that today.
I found it! Thank you! I thought that was house to the left and closer to the road!
It doesn’t look like it’s on a hill to me as it does in Realtor pictures ...
Exactly.
The truth is ....As long as the person responsible for the disappearance of SM does not get a penny ...I don’t care.Gimme Funds. Putting in Daughters' Names?
@vaporlass
Did Nephew previously say anything different re who & what he intended to use $ for? IDK. In setting up Gimme did Nephew consider BM as possibly involved? IDK, even if he did, might seem a weeeee bit awkward for a campaign organizer to solicit $ to pay expenses for two dau's only. Would not evoke image of a Norman Rockwell Thanksgiving family dinner tableau.
Putting it in daughter's name??? Like organizer withdraws $50,000 and writes check, payable to the order of Dau1 And Dau2??? Sounds simple enough, let them deposit $ to bk a/c in their joint names, use as needed? Or maybe split into two a/c's, one a/c for ea teen? Aside from any possible legal issue w anyone not yet of the age of majority & bank a/c's, perhaps there are other issues weighing against giving teens unfettered access to $? Not saying anything about these two, but how many teens are responsible enough to handle that amt of $? And no oversight on what they spend $ on? Is either a 'wild child' or vulnerable to boyfriends' or peer pressure to spend, well, unwisely. Frivolously? Illegally?
Or would Nephew, or trusted fam/friend, deposit $50,000 to a separate, designated a/c, to manage payments for two dau? Or have atty draft a trust agreement w the two teens as beneficiaries, and use Gimme $ to fund it, then w Nephew/bank/atty/fam/friend(?) handling as trustee?
Depending on particulars, there's likely a reasonable arrangement (not a one-size-fits-all solution) to use the $ for their expenses. All they way around and regardless of what has happened to SM, a extreeeemely sad situation for BM, daughters, friends, family and communities in COL. and IND.
I’d take my phone even without a signal because I could still listen to downloaded music on it.
