I find it hard to believe that a mistress would not know he was married. He was actively posting about his wife on the internet and how great she was before she went missing. There are many photos of him with his wedding ring on-even if he didn’t wear it in a potential mistress’ presence, he would surely have a tan cheater mark on his ring finger, with as much time as he spends outdoors. For him, I think it’s more about being in control of the narrative. If he isn’t big man on campus that everyone adores, he takes his ball and goes home.
Absolutely agree a mistress would know he was married.But he probably spun the age old tale of his wife not understanding him.