Bringing this over from
@Addicted2Crime on the last thread, but I couldn't get the quote to work:
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agree with a previous poster that said her asking about fixing the pool is likely her trying to grip on to anything that resembles normalcy. I wonder if the pool looked the way it did because they never repaired the liner problems. You cant leave a liner pool empty like that for long without causing more damage, plus you need it drained in most cases to fix liner problems so with it being empty and her wanting to avoid further problems she knew it had to be done. When my husband passed away, I was shellshocked and traumatized but I had young kids and still needed to do a lot of normal things as hard as it was - I am not comparing situations but its kind of crazy what you do when going through trauma that might look weird to outsiders.
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I'm so sorry you lost your husband while you still had young children.
IMO your comment, which is SBM, actually shows the opposite of how the grandmother reacted.
You HAD to do normal things, but you did that because your children were alive and needed you. You clearly put them first, ahead of your own trauma, and forced yourself to carry on and help them through their own loss of a father. That is a heroic and truly maternal choice.
In this case, Quinton is still missing and I cannot fathom how he cannot be her only and every thought, along with the impact on her other grandchildren, and whatever trouble several family members are possibly going to find themselves in shortly.
In that context, I personally, MOO, cannot grasp how the liner of the pool and the restoration of the pool could even register in her mind.
If she needs the pool fixed for her other grandchildren, now is certainly not the time for this to be a priority.
Jmo
