I have a friend who got divorced 2 years ago this December. Since then...well, actually since before the divorce while they were separated, she has had countless "boyfriends" in her life. They usually last a few months but almost all have either moved in or stayed there enough that they essentially lived there (just didn't pay bills!). She has 2 children, ages 6 and 8. Those kids have been exposed to so many men that I can't even count them. A few have had children of their own, some haven't. She has let them all watch her kids at one point or another. She has met all of them (except one) on a dating site. She has never dated more than one at a time, but as soon as one is gone, another one is there almost immediately. I think the longest between them has been a couple of months.
Sadly, our friendship has paid the price because I just cannot understand how she can continue to introduce so many new men into her children's lives. She can't be alone and she doesn't seem to care how it affects her children. I couldn't care less if she slept with every man in town, but why does she have to introduce the kids to them???
I miss her as a friend, but we just will never see eye-to-eye on this and I can't watch it anymore. Oh, and her ex is in the kids lives, and he is aware of the men, but he hasn't done much about it (other than fight with her). If I were him, I'd be changing the custody arrangements ASAP, but that's just me.
This is why I'm probably going to be 60 years old and alone. By the time my kids will be out of the house and I'm "free" to date, no one will want me. But, as long as my kids are safe, it's worth the cost. There are days when I'm a little sad about it, but it's still worth it.
Are these other women just clueless? Do we "know" too much because we are so involved here at WS? I mean, for crying out loud, I'm lonely too, but I don't bring all these men home putting my kids at risk just so I can feel better!
Ok. Off soapbox. Sorry for OT.