Hello - I am a long time lurker on this thread - but my first post. This case has intrigued me in so many ways. This is MOO - What led him to killing his wife and little girls - I see Shanann as being the one in the relationship whom everyone likes - she is friendly, happy, has a little sass to her, she can light up a room. Chris is the one who is a follower, with a low self esteem. He liked the fact that a pretty girl with the friendly personality would date him then become his wife. He felt on top of the world. They have kids - he isn't the center of attention anymore but can deal with it. Then Shanann gets involved with Thrive - she is a top earner -( I sell for a MLM - I know what you got to do to make the big bucks, I don't make my biz my top income so I don't push the "fake it till you make it" way on social media) - now he feels like she isn't paying enough attention to him. He doesn't feel important - maybe he feels like all he is there for is to take care of the kids, he starts to resent them, Shanann and Thrive. He gets into shape and starts taking care of himself. He is getting attention from female coworkers - something that he never had before - and now he is liking it since Shanann isn't giving him the attention like he thinks he deserves. Shanann and the kids are gone to NC for 6 weeks - he is getting the attention from someone else (maybe even more than one person) - they come back from NC - he decides he doesn't want to live the family life anymore. I think it was premeditated... Why did he delete his FB profile a week before this all happened? He likes attention - I think that's what some people want that help with low self esteem. I know a few others have posted something similar to this. These are just my thoughts. My friend sells Thrive - she met Shanann at one of their getaways last year. She said she was one of the nicest people she has ever met. This whole case is sad. Hell divorce is an easier way out!
It really is. But for some reason these family annihilators find the idea of divorce unthinkable, and murder is the best option.
Why?
It's crazy. Even if they got away with it, the media, the scrutiny, the police all over the place, investigating, questioning, family and friends panicking and grieving and wondering forever. Or if the family is found dead, mourning and funerals, etc.
All of that is somehow easier for these murderers?
And yet to them it is.
Why? I think it depends on the person. But it seems to always come down to this narcissistic panic of being unmasked and/or disappointing dominating parents.
In scott Peterson's case apparently leaving a pregnant wife right before birth, at Christmas, for an affair, was something he could not do. He could not face or upset his annihilating mother by being less than perfect.
For Chris Coleman, he could not veer from the strict tenets of his extremely fundamentalist Christian parents- his pastor father, by divorcing his wife and breaking up his family, with two boys, for an affair. And that would be unacceptable and cause him to lose his job as body guard to his televangelist boss.
So murder was easier.
For Christian Longo, again, he came from a strict, Jehovah Witness background. Divorce is not an option in ther community.
I note in a recent FA case out of Canada, the dad who killed his daughters and wife was a youth pastor. Maybe divorce was not an option for him either. Not much else is known.
I think each case is different but they can't face being unmasked. They can't face being thought of as a bad guy.
I guess suspicion that they're a murderer is far less frightening than being definitively known as someone who has "left" his family for someone else or for freedom in general.
I also think some of these murderers simply don't want to be saddled with child support, child custody, spousal support or the loss of half their assets in divorce.
