Hi Michelle,
We met today at court.
What surprised me - I don't know why, given what we already know about SK - was the disrespectful way she'd treated him as OM outlined his long-standing relationship with Sabrina. He told how she'd got pregnant to another man soon after they'd met when she was 19 but was led to believe it was OM's child (this is Kenzi btw). He chose to believe her and used to do the night feeds etc and then found it wasn't his child. He decided to stay and bring up the child as his own anyway but (and this is where it all got confusing) another fella appeared on the scene. His counsel showed him a notebook with a kind of love note/letter written in French to SK in it, saying that she held the key to his heart and he just wanted to spend his life with Kenzi and her. OM was asked if it was his handwriting. He hesitated and said 'well there are quite a few mistakes'. When pushed, he said 'this must be Antony'. It became obvious that not only was SK unfaithful with the first guy (and got pregnant) but once OM had re-committed to her she then left him again to have a relationship with this guy Antony. We weren't told if he was French or whatever (OM commented on mistakes in the text) but this was obviously before she went off once again to have a kid with Mark Walton, after which - once more - she went back to the faithful puppy OM. Terrible I know (and this is obviously the plan for his defence),
But I really did start to feel sorry for him. I heard all the audio tapes and this new information confirmed that he really is a sad little man with low self esteem, no friends and a fatal attraction to a nutter who led him down a path that he was ill-equipped to deal with..... I think I just wrote his counsel's closing argument. D'oh!
Paleface - your post made me laugh - to my shame I have had similar thoughts. In fact, if I`m not careful I`m in danger of becoming one of these crazy women who faithfully visits every week in prison (and of course falls in love with :loveyou
a mass murderer, tell the world he`s a lovely - but misunderstood man - has a prison wedding complete with white dress and wedding cake and lives unhappily ever after. Yikes!
Joking aside, I get exactly what you are saying. He presents as a placid, quiet, devoted man. I do not doubt that much of what he says is true in relation to his love, appeasement and protection of SK. However, because of his devotion and his nature, he was no match for her and I do believe, after spending so many years with her, he, himself became warped and no longer knew what "normal" was. He became part of her never ending drama and false thinking - maybe almost a clone of her.
I have to literally keep reminding myself of his actions, rather than his words and that keeps me in check. At the end of the day, as adults, we all have to take responsibility for our behaviour.
Forget SK having any feelings of gratitude towards him. She is incapable. She is too fragmented, too empty to connect in a meaningful way to another human being. For someone like her, no amount of "feeding" will ever be enough.
I wonder..just a theory...* if * she had been sexually abused in the past (it`s possible), and nobody cared/believed her, could she be trying to get that sympathy, attention, nurturing, recognition etc through claiming that her child had suffered that experience? (A sort of munchausen by proxy?)
OM`s anger and brutality towards Sophie - could that be displacement of his own feelings of rage and impotence he felt from his treatment by SK that he seemed helpless to defend against. Like a school bully who is acting out his own experiences of being bullied by his parents?
Just my ramblings...
