I understand, it's like praising a female parent who cares for the kids. No one does that. My sil takes care of the children while my daughter works. They have it set up to where one can always be there so they don't have to use a sitter or daycare now. Back in my era, my Dad never changed a diaper. Ever. I don't think he held us til we were six months old. He thought we were too fragile. Now after we got to where we could hold our heads up and sit up, he was more comfortable. I plopped my newborn in his lap and he kinda froze up! He does much better with each grand, and greatgrandchild now, but still no diaper changes. :notgood: I must admit, I had a hard time with diapers, but, ya gotta do what ya gotta do.