A pitty that DH or other friends or family of John are not interested to be VI in this community to enforce eachother...
We hope that this community can just analyse the FACTS given by family and LE to conclude possible scenarios of what might have happened and focussing on finding the location where Fang or her remains can be found ...so finally her friends, family and specially her 2 lovely daughters can continue their lives with an honest answer of what happened to their mom.
@mark1969, Fang Jin's family & friends, I am sorry for your loss and the difficult time you are going through not knowing where Fang is or when she will come home. I wish I had met her & had the privilege of knowing her. In the videos of Fang traveling she seemed to enjoy life, was curious, welcoming, and lovely.
My guess is that DH & JRF's family are trying to figure things out also. They too are grieving. Hopefully answers you seek will come from someone who can provide them soon.
My thoughts
for now on what happened could be all wrong.
Fang & Fitzpatrick, both 50ish mature people, knew who they were; both had life experiences living other places, knowing people from other cultures. For anyone to travel half-way around the world to meet, stay together for 2+months, it seems they would,
at very least, be friends. At best, have hope/expectations of amazing uncomplicated times with attraction & chemistry. Beginnings are great. After 4-5 days together full-time in real life (
what's that like 10+ real dates?), Fang & Fitzpatrick prob figured out whether or not they were compatible, if their lifestyles & values were similar enough to have a healthy relationship--
a relationship with a future. Not that one lifestyle is better or worse, lifestyles just sometimes don't fit/mix together (
political, spiritual, interests, hobbies). I don't think Fang & JRF were a good fit and they figured it out within those 6 days but prob did not talk about it. It's hard to fake lukewarm feelings; for some it's harder to admit defeat. Emotions often take over. Tensions surface. Some just try to numb themselves w/comfort food, drugs, alcohol, video games, endless hiking
or a combination of things. NONE of this should matter to anyone other than the couple involved; it should never come to missing or death. Mature people accept life, hurt for a while, make other plans, move on, even stay friends sometimes. But I don't think that's what happened here. IMO an accident happened during the numbing stage. Bad decisions after that. I truly hope you find answers soon.
Blessings, speculation, thoughts & prayers up.
Always JMO