BBM My son and grandsons do not live with us. As a family we are very close. Hubby spends hours on the phone with our son every evening. I call him several times a day. My grandsons call both of us every day. MY DIL and Grand DIL calls us both every day. I talk to my sisters and nieces and nephews several times a week. We live in a very small town and all of us ( my son, grandsons, siblings and most of their kids and grandchildren all live in this town within blocks of each other. We see each other often at the one grocery store in town and at the one convenience store. They come to visit very often. They know a lot about us. For example they know mom's knee hurts during cold weather. They know dad's back hurts a lot from an old injury. They know when we are sick. They know why we are sick what medications we take. They know when we mow the lawn, when we take a drive to the nearest big city and why. They know when we go out to dinner or buy new furniture or cars. They know that mom thinks Alabama will win the national football championship and dad insists Oklahoma will. I do not think a family could be closer than mine is. But what none of them ever know is the rare occasions when hubby and I argue. They never know what we argue about. If we have financial discussions or financial problems they never know about it. Hubby and I have at times went weeks upset with each other over some thing. But when we are around them we are all smiles and pleasantries and we strive to never let them know there is tension between us. So no, I do not think the Sherman kids knew everything that was wrong in their marriage and I do not think the kids knew about any problems they were having or why. I think those kids are just like my own son and grandsons. busy with their own families and lives and focused on their own problems and raising their own kids.