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I had thought there was, but since the posts are staying up, I was obviously mistaken. There may be no rule, but I think all of us have to be very careful.
In "exploring his feelings, thoughts and attitudes," it's important to remember what someone (Emma Ems?) brought up a few posts back: for the past three years or so, Dylan had been spending very little time with Mark at all. So little, in fact, that it may have ended up that Dylan would actually be spending _more_ time with him under a court-negotiated schedule, so the move to Colorado Springs would not be affecting that part of Dylan's life in a significant way.
Looking from the outside in (as all of us here are), it appears that DR had moved to a lovely house, with a stably-employed mother and soon to be stepfather. He was with his brother, to whom he was very close, and he was actively involved in school, sports, and life. Further, his visit with his father was to be very short, and in just a year or so, or even less, he would reach the age at which he could dictate who he wished to maintain contact with.
The devotion and determination to Dylan that Elaine, Cory, MH, and their family and friends have displayed during this tragedy has, more than once, brought me to tears. One does not receive that kind of support from one's community unless one earns it -- how many of us have so many friends, friends who would spend countless hours, over seven long months, supporting us?
The behavior displayed by MR, who, as was noted by yet another poster, hasn't even put up a poster, has left me baffled. No one knows if he is guilty of anything other than negligence, but his response to date has made seeing him as a victim very difficult.
