Never more have I felt so deeply sorry for Suzanne. I’ve been in her shoes (minus the children) where you’re in an abusive relationship that you can’t get out of, out of fear of your partner harming themselves, or you.
You stay, you’re unhappy, you resign yourself to this unhappy life, you lose yourself in every aspect, and then someone comes along, they might not be perfect and the situation might not be perfect, but they make you feel special and worthy again and this is what you crave. You record your moments with them and play them back because they bring you happiness in a life where you don’t have much of that.
They help you to build yourself back up, and you finally pluck up the courage to leave because whether it’s going to be with this person or not, you know that there’s a better life out there for you. In my case, I got away, I didn’t stay with that person for long but he helped me to find myself again. Unfortunately for Suzanne, she was so close, but he just wouldn’t let her go.
JMO but I don’t think JL was right for Suzanne. For all we and she knew, he could have been another narc! We know that empaths (I think Suzanne was one) attract narcs, and he could have been love bombing her and making false promises about their future (again JMO). Regardless, he was making her feel a certain way that she craved, it it brought her happiness and that brings me comfort knowing that there was one aspect of her life that brought her joy.
I’m so pleased that Suzanne was able to find some comfort, love and warmth in her final months
I’m on the fence as to whether Barry knew about the affair, I guess we’ll find out soon. I think it’s just as probable that Suzanne (having made sure the girls were away) asked him for a divorce and he lost it. She might have sowed the seed on Friday and when he couldn’t get his way on the Saturday and bring her around, when he knew that there was nothing more he could do and that she was done, he killed her. JMO.
ETA - “got to go home and make the wife happy” = she told me she wanted a divorce last night, I’m acting all weird because I know she could be home making plans to leave, so I need to go home and talk her around”.