I personally think after being with my hubby since {{cough}} '77 that it takes more than bad financial issues/ mismanagement to cause such hatred and anger in a marriage. The only time I have ever seen any relationship cause such discourse always involved an on the side relationship by one of the couple man or woman. It doesn't always happen immediately. Some couples stew on it for some time before they react. The hatred grows like a volcano until it explodes. It doesn't take much at that point to lose control. I don't think there's a third party abduction in this case but something has told me as I stated way in the beginning that being stuck with a spouse during a pandemic that was used to being secretive and having an affair must be high tension. moo
It's almost too tragic to think about but I envision a true Taurean woman that gladly and willingly spent nearly 30 years in a selfless relationship-- supporting and caretaking of others. She epitomized the woman behind the successful husband and happy children. Her family's health, security, and happiness were her reward.
And after all these years, there came the one time in her life that she was weak and suffering, found herself miles away from extended family and lifelong friends, and somebody very close did not step up to the plate. His first (and last) opportunity to show what he was made of, and ......
And this is very important: it's not that he did not roll up his sleeves, nurture his children, or hold her hand during treatment, etc.,
it's that he didn't offer.
My perception is he never offered.
Just as we've seen day after day, BM is incapable of putting others before himself.
IMO, SM had enough empathy for the entire family but experiencing the absence of empathy from the one she's given so much to forever changed the game.
It's an experience, a feeling, that can never be taken back.
A picture that can never be unseen.
It's been a different SM that came back (from cancer).
A different woman has been living in their house, and BM got rid of the stranger.
MOO