Whisperer wrote:
Everything was for appearances. The perfect home, children, cars, etc were the way she was going to achieve it. If they had pimples, by darn, she would make sure the pimples were NOT going to destroy their looks...off to the Dr. No problem seeing docs when it involves improving the child's appearance.
With a Narcissist, everything is about appearances. All the clothes and things for Caylee they could not afford. People always act as though this proves how Cindy cared for and loved Caylee. Not in my eyes. People like Cindy do not have normal emotions and cannot be hurt in their hearts like normal people. Only their pride and ego can be injured.
Cindy also doesn't like kc being in the middle between Caylee and herself. Emotions are running high. The reason cindy says it just started when Caylee was born was that was the first time she had to deal with the problem. There was a rival in casey's life. casey's role as she knew it, was over. She is still cindy's daughter but now she was given the term "mother". She didn't like it but cindy better not try to take it away from her either.
Narcissicists have very little to give emotionally. When a shiny, new object (Caylee) comes into their lives, the old object (Casey) is devalued and discarded. Cindy has zero self-introspection. She probably does believe that the problems just started after Caylee was born. Narcissicists have to blame somebody or something.
There were two controlling, manipulative women living under the same roof. Both of them vying for the attention of Caylee. One was going to win and one was going to lose. Cindy had power due to cindy had money...she could dangle that carrot in front of casey forever. cindy knew her daughter wasn't working. Cindy was playing her. She was also saving on babysitting by having her watch Caylee during the day.
The ultimate goal of a Narcissicist is power and control. Caylee was something to possess. And everything is a win or a loss to them. Cindy did not want Casey to have a job and be independent. Instead of buying all that material stuff, Cindy should have hired a sitter and/or George could have helped more since he didn't make much money anyway. On Cindy's salary and benefits alone, life would have been quite good if they knew how to manage money. But yeah, Cindy did not want to throw away the luxury of free babysitter.
cindy tells us she is on a quest to find out what really happened. I don't think she wants to find out what happened to Caylee. She wants to find out what made casey kill Caylee...but she speaks in terms of "I want to learn what happened to my daughter". She is smart enough to figure it out but will never do it...for that would mean cindy would have to take responsibility for what she did...by allowing her daughter to lie about her job, friends, stealing, conning people. See cindy knew the entire time casey was lying. She knew something terrible happened to Caylee. She knew it when she wrote the myspace page.
Cindy is lying to the public. She is not in denial. She knows but doesn't want to confront those fears. George has known from the first day. They both, together with Baez, pulled the wool over everyone's eyes for six months, insisting Caylee was alive and sending the entire police force on phoney leads.
Agree that Cindy is not in denial. She is only trying to manipulate how people view her and shedding any responsibility she may have had in helping a murderer go free. She cared for Caylee but not in the way that most people would. I believe any tears were not for Caylee, but for herself. For Cindy, once Caylee was gone, she moved on quickly to another mission: absolving Casey which would thereby absolve Cindy as well. She is not defending Casey because she loves her so much like alot of people seem to think. She feels the stink from Casey is on her too and if she could only Febreeze it away then people would see they are a fine family who suffered through a tragic accident beyond their control. Narcissists have to wear the mask because they fear all the ugliness inside will be seen. Take off the mask Cindy because almost everyone has already seen underneath. You are only fooling a very small number of people. Your family is/was a boiling cauldron of depravity long before Caylee was no longer of this Earth.
All of this post is MOO.
