--My first post here, though I've been reading y'all for a looong time.
I think sane folks have a difficult time wrapping their brains around what crazy folks say and do. Thankfully, really, but still. Crazy folks are by definition not
rational, and so it is problematic to use only logic to figure them out.
Understanding that, here is my take on Cindy: She is in denial, if and when it suits her own purposes to be in denial. All the evidence suggests that Cindy knew Casey was anything but an "awesome" mother, and that she knew Casey had serious mental health problems at least since her high school years.
Cindy knows she failed her daughter. A responsible (and sane) parent would have forced Casey into serious counseling many years ago, and would never
have tolerated Casey's lies, much less enabled them, much less co-created them.
George's nightmare--and rightly so, the source of his heaping pile of guilt-- is that he knew
that Cindy's parenting was wrong and destructive at every level, but that he did not intervene. Ever.
Over and over he chose to protect himself from Cindy and Cindy's anger, even when that escape came at the expense of first his daughter, and then his precious grand-daughter. No wonder he tried to kill himself. By his inaction, he absolutely shares responsibility for all that has happened.
Cindy, IMO, is a sociopath, pure and simple. For those of you who want to understand the Cindys (and Caseys) of the world, I highly recommend the book-The People of the Lie
Cindy is incapable of loving. She didn't love Casey and she didn't love Caylee. Her tears are for herself- for her loss of control and for her loss of the illusion of family.
She uses denial not because she loves Casey unconditionally and can't accept the truth about Casey (what a joke!), but because if she admitted the truth about what happened she would have to see her own core ugliness in the mirror and THAT she won't do, no matter what, period.
I don't feel sorry for Casey. Even putting Caylee's murder aside, Casey too obviously enjoys causing her "friends" and family pain. My bet is that she throughly enjoyed watching her parents interviewed.
What a twofer- she gets to witness and enjoy how she's divided her parents and set them at each other, and she gets the satisfaction of knowing a huge number of people have watched the interviews and think her parents are scum.
In the end though, what is most sad to me is that clearly Casey never had a chance to be healthy, and given that plus Cindy's dominant role in that house-hold, Caylee never stood a chance of becoming the whole beautiful person she would otherwise have been.
Shame on them all.