Toni was not raised to know better.
Everyone owes their children that understanding and respect for others and empathy and restraint that 'poor' Toni's parents failed in successfully resonating within Toni's understandings - thus contributing to her 'poor' behaviours.
We can't fix Toni or Gerweird - We can help our children, nieces, nephews and grand children to be better humans than Toni and Gerweird.
Everyone with a reasonable moral compass can assist in his/her way to protect the next generations and society in general just by teaching kids to : keep your pants on outside your commitment - otherwise admit you want out and acknowledge the consequences and be half of the clean up : and THEN go for it with whomever you've suddenly decided is the next best thing to give up this life for.
I dunno - it's just so noxious.
Religion and good parenting, laws - really - who am I kidding - since the dawn of time some men and some women behave like animals.
I do my best to teach mine to be better.
But how could Allison have been served better? She had a dedicated dad and friend in her mum.
Allison herself did her level best to cope, 'push through', rise above her husband's extreme/typical flaws.
She taught her daughters and their school friends resilience for heavens sakes.
What more could be done to avoid her death?
One person is to blame and his upbringing - that's how I see it.
At the very high risk of being frowned upon.... I have to say that I actually feel sorry for TM. I'd say she was totally drawn in by GBC's web of deceitful promises....:dunno:
Just to be clear, I am in no way condoning any of her actions but just feel that she also is a victim in this terribly sad case. :whiteflag: