I definitely don't believe you have to be disordered or even otherwise mentally unhealthy to find yourself in an abusive relationship, just vulnerable. I do totally believe she is disordered though, yep. Some abusers are psychopaths who will intentionally look for weaknesses in their victims and prey upon those. For some that 'weakness' is something so simple as compassion. They are predators in the truest sense of the word.
Anyway to reiterate why I consider her claims of abuse to be questionable (and many other DV survivors here have also said as much):
- There were no ties that bound Jodi and Travis. No children, no property, no business. There was no impetus to stay in a relationship that started off as abusive from practically day one according to her.
- She slashed his tires.
- She invaded his privacy, read through his emails, snooped through his social media.
- She apparently entered his home uninvited while he was sleeping.
- She warned the women he was dating against dating him.
- She moved the 1000+ miles
months after they broke up to the city he was living in.
- There is no corroborating testimony available from anyone, even online, to depict Travis as being violent or even having much of a temper. (Justifiable anger in response to her actions is vastly different imo.)
- She knew his ATM pin # and garage code that she has openly admitted to. (To me this is even further evidence of her scary stalkerish behavior.)
- Unlike Travis, there has been testimony to show a history of disturbingly obsessive and invasive behaviors with previous boyfriends.
- The amount of sheer premeditation in this case rather flies in the face of a self-defense claim.
- No evidence of Travis ever forcing, compelling, threatening or stalking Jodi to change her mind once she decided to move back to California.
- Encouraging Jodi to date other people. (All except that one guy.

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- A lack of evidence or testimony to show controlling behaviors on Travis' part.
IMHO any couple of the above could be explained but not all of them. In fact that list paints her as an abusive personality herself, which I very firmly believe her to be. Pretty certain I missed plenty off my list too but it's 3am and I've already invested way too much of my sleeping time into Jodi.