No one knows the R's personally on here. At least I think not :dunno:
IMO there is no way to know their full histories, including how they were as children themselves, and what goes on in their heads. There's just no way to know someone fully, much less someone you've (not a personal "you" directed at anyone) never met.
Excellent reminder, Venom. While we all can consider psychological scenarios, based on reading, without knowing the Rs or their friends personally, or even seeing all the evidence, it seems like evaluating their personalities devolves to speculation. (Ive done it too.) Basically, any of the molestation theories have merit but speculation is really the case when it comes to the sexual abuse, and even Kolar was subject to having a hypothetical theory about BR and SBP. Perhaps there are posters here who knew the Rs friends, or had even met the Rs, IDK. But one thing Ive gathered (also from reading) is whoever perpetrated the abuse lived (and contributed to) an environment of dysfunction of some kind. Perhaps true psychiatric problems, as some have wondered/decided, loose boundaries, perhaps affairs or sexual issues between the parents. As far as BR and SBP, it certainly could be, but its been brought out by experts (Aranji) this disorder also does not spring up in a vacuum, or its (SBPs) appearance arises within certain kinds of environments.
In evaluation of PR, one would think she would not have taken her daughter to Dr. B so frequently, unless it is some kind of case for MHBP. The other thing one can think about is that JBs bedwetting was a big problem in the family. Add that to the fact of the Paughs giving PR books such as The Hurried Child to read, and one can at least consider PR was making attempts to get on top of the problem, including sending both BR and PR to counselors (very risky if she was actually perpetrating the abuse). But I also understand that PR perpetrating the abuse cannot be discounted. moo