I think the poster was simply having difficulty with the way she was wording it... I, personally understood what she was trying to say. I really don't blame her for not answering some of those questions, I would've avoided them too. Just as it's perfectly acceptable to ask questions, it's perfectly acceptable to ignore a question. We're all equal here and I really hate to see posters get run off, or viewing guests staying away because of intimidation...
Many posters (esp. newbies) are a little nervous to post anyway. For some it comes easy, but not all.
As far as my tone goes... I just felt really bad because I know this posters style (she's been here from the beginning) and she doesn't bait, withhold info, etc... She's very direct, and she said she wasn't baiting anyone at all, she was simply stating her (and her husbands) opinion... Not rumor, not hearsay...
All jmo