FlowerChild
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NOBODY comes with a hang-tag that says how long we will live. There ARE NO guarantees that the "perfect" pair of parents the same judge would pick would live out the month, just as the prospective obese father might outlive the judge.
Adoptions should be done without ANY significance being placed on the appearance of the prospective family. Perhaps they could testify from behind a screen? ALL the information necessary should be in the application - how the people LOOK shouldn't have any bearing - especially if their Dr deems them healthy enough to parent.
There are kids with NO PARENTS - I am sure any one of those kids would be thrilled to have parents - yes, even a VERY overweight father. We would all LOVE for every child to go to the "perfect" pretty, magazine photo family - Brad and Angelina maybe? But in MY opinion, perfect families have a lot more to do with what's INSIDE than what's outside. Sometimes the most picture perfect families are really UGLY to the core inside. Scott Peterson LOOKED the part of the perfect father - but we all know what his pretty exterior covered up.
Every day children are born into families that no judge would ever choose for them.....and the majority of those parents do a GREAT job of parenting despite the many issues they have to confront along the way - including divorce, death of a spouse or a child, bad health, obesity and living in near poverty. LIFE isn't fair or perfect and we ALL will have obstacles to overcome - and happily, most of us rise to the challenge time after time.
No judge can decide or predict which people will be the best parents by LOOKING at them - it isn't a beauty contest. And no judge can know what tomorrow holds for anyone. It would be great if "bad" people looked bad on the outside and very ill people looked sick on the outside - but they don't. And I agree with the poster who said - once we start judging people by a set of standards NOT related to the ability and suitability to parent we are on a very slippery slope....we don't restrict people giving birth to children due to being overweight - why would we consider it in adoption?
My Opinion
Adoptions should be done without ANY significance being placed on the appearance of the prospective family. Perhaps they could testify from behind a screen? ALL the information necessary should be in the application - how the people LOOK shouldn't have any bearing - especially if their Dr deems them healthy enough to parent.
There are kids with NO PARENTS - I am sure any one of those kids would be thrilled to have parents - yes, even a VERY overweight father. We would all LOVE for every child to go to the "perfect" pretty, magazine photo family - Brad and Angelina maybe? But in MY opinion, perfect families have a lot more to do with what's INSIDE than what's outside. Sometimes the most picture perfect families are really UGLY to the core inside. Scott Peterson LOOKED the part of the perfect father - but we all know what his pretty exterior covered up.
Every day children are born into families that no judge would ever choose for them.....and the majority of those parents do a GREAT job of parenting despite the many issues they have to confront along the way - including divorce, death of a spouse or a child, bad health, obesity and living in near poverty. LIFE isn't fair or perfect and we ALL will have obstacles to overcome - and happily, most of us rise to the challenge time after time.
No judge can decide or predict which people will be the best parents by LOOKING at them - it isn't a beauty contest. And no judge can know what tomorrow holds for anyone. It would be great if "bad" people looked bad on the outside and very ill people looked sick on the outside - but they don't. And I agree with the poster who said - once we start judging people by a set of standards NOT related to the ability and suitability to parent we are on a very slippery slope....we don't restrict people giving birth to children due to being overweight - why would we consider it in adoption?
My Opinion