TURBOTHINK
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KC is young, I can't imagine having a baby at her age, when none of my friends had a baby either. So here she is, stuck in that tiny one floor house that is decorated in her mom's style, even KC's bedroom. Where are the posters of boys on her walls, her cds and collections of stuff people her age have? It just seems very odd, they whole thing. Who lives like that? What did she do during the day? Sit on that uncomfortable-looking furniture? Where were the toys Caylee played with? My kids have laundry baskets full of toys or toyboxes in every room our the house. The whole situation is just odd.
LOL - I had two at her age and completed college with them hanging on my legs. Some women are not meant to have children like some men are not good fathers.
I always put my kids first. My first husband and I both traveled in our careers, so we hired a nanny. (real one too) When I was home, I homeschooled my older children and even after I divorced I scheduled my work schedule around their schedules. The older ones graduated with honors from college. It was not easy being a single parent and maintaining a home for them, but I did not feel trapped or like I was missing something as KC obviously did.
My Mother was a career person herself, so I did not have a babysitter in the family. I only had brothers for siblings, and although they taught my sons to play golf, they were not available for sitting. It never occurred to me that I needed a family member to take over my responsibilities.
It never crossed my mind that I could move back into my parent's home, although they had a very large home and would have loved to have had us. I bought my own first home at age at age 20, and valued my friends and family as an emotional support system and mentors but not as my "means of financial support."
KC seems to be blunted in her emotional age. She seems to be stuck at about age 13. I know kids get stuck at the age they start using drugs and do not mature past that age emotionally, but other things can also cause that type of lack of maturing. That is why I have always suspected some type of sexual abuse.
I do believe my generation was raised to be more mature coming out of high school and expect to work and support a family. I don't know any of my friends who have not been successful in a career or as homemakers. I do not know any mothers who did not take care of their children. (although I am sure there were some) Today's kids seem to lack the maturity and the wisdom required for living successfully. They don't seem to know how to leave their parents, and like not having to fully support themselves. That was unheard of in my generation. It is not about college, it is about being happy in all circumstances. I don't know it is this "instant gratification" many expect or just an overall lack of common sense, but there is something not right in many of these young people.