After watching this case recently on Disappeared, I'm going to have to go with the theory of "intentional suicide."
Aun - I oft find it fascinating how two people can read the same case information and come away with different opinions. I so much just want to look at your post and agree because it makes complete sense if you view the data in a specific way. In my case, I just feel there are a few key elements missing and a few others that are anomalous to the point I do not see this as a suicide based on the input. Granted, I am heavily influenced by the presentation of this case in the "Disappeared" episode and the consumption of this thread so perhaps I am working with a lighter set of data than you. That said, I think some of the evidence and circumstance actually point to something other than suicide. I'm not quoting here to try and argue any point, just to put things into perspective and how how interesting it is to see that same thing differently. Thank you for the post because it really touched on the key elements of the case.
—his parents' separation and estrangement (a word which Disappeared used, and to me suggests they were no longer even on speaking terms; in the episode, the parents never appeared together or even referred to one another, if I remember correctly);
Aun - In my view I do not place such a high level of importance on the parents being divorced. If you watch all seasons of Disappeared with an eye towards the parents never appearing together you will find a very large portion of the cases have this circumstance and in the majority of them, suicide is not the outcome. Granted, this is in NC, where the idea of a nuclear family is still an important social link, I have found young adults of the modern generations are becoming increasingly desensitized to non traditional scenarios. Sure, when a traditional family breaks down, the young children can react in expected ways but the older they get, the less this matters. I just do not place a large emphasis on this circumstance. I think the statistics would show fewer young adults commit suicide when their parents divorce than do.
—the natural anxiety that comes from going to college away from home; at that age, you begin to feel like you need to have the rest of your life figured out, since you know that you're going to have to declare a major soon;
Aun - I'm on the fence with this one. Being away from home can be very scary for a young man but in this case he is like 1.5 hours away from where he went to high school. Right? Literally a stone throw down the road from the safety of his social circles when needed. Granted this could become an issue if he was completely cut off from his family and friends but he wasn't. In fact, I think he resisted help from his family by keeping them in the dark about his issues and certainly turned away his girl friend after the DUI. This does not seem like someone who was overwhelmed with loneliness. Conversely, I see your point about needing to have things figured out. I can imagine that pressure making him feel conflicted in terms of not being in school like he is "expected" and therefore feeling like he's failing. I can see that much but does it add up to suicide?
—the fact that he felt he wasn't taking proper advantage of the many opportunities and privileges his parents afforded him.
Aun - I think this statement is not a statement that profoundly points to depression and suicide. To me, it's an acknowledgement and an affirmation that he has figured things out. He knows what's wrong and as such, he knows how to fix it. He wasn't deflecting and he certainly wasn't asking for pity. He simply expressed a moment of clarity.
—the DWI, which was probably the catalyst to the breakdown because it was a tangible representation of everything he perceived was going on with his life;
I think the DWI was a catalyst as you mention but we have to remember, he survived the DWI. He survived the fallout of the DWI, and apparently was dealing with it. The DWI was the moment of rock bottom. I think right after it, the moment he rejected the help from his girlfriend when she tried to pick him up was likely the emotional bottom... More on that later.
—unprescribed anti-depressants found in his room which, as someone else above noted, could cause depression and suicidal thoughts as a side effect.
Aun - Yes in deed, antidepressant medications can and do cause their own set of issues for patients. You are completely right about that and could be at play here. However, I think they are more than just a causative aspect of suicidal thoughts in this case. I think the meds are the holy grail to his case. In that, whomever gave him the meds knows exactly what was bothering him and if this person or doctor can be found, we will know the full story. How long was he taking them? If he had been taking them over an extended period and decided to stop all at once, you can be sure he suffered physically. Seizures are not uncommon. I'll not detail all possibilities I think could implicated with the meds in this post (if interested, please review a few of my earlier posts for that discussion) instead, I will just reiterate at the point where he left his note, he had already endured the disappointment of the DWI and speaking strictly from a statistical point of view. More folks do not commit suicide because they are on antidepressants than do.
I note that in this episode, the detective, when referring to the letter, makes it a point to say that it didn't say either way whether or not he intended to commit suicide. But he adds that Martin felt like a "failure."
Aun - Feeling like a failure is huge and could very well lead to intentional suicide, but I read in one of the posts James Martin was talking about a "big change" coming. I wanted to understand this language a little better as it relates to traditional suicide notes so I dove down the rabbit hole of search engine madness to look up examinations of other suicide letters and came away with the feeling that when someone writes a suicide note they are usually pretty clear on their intentions and, maybe more importantly they don't express suicide in terms of a "change" they express it in terms of finality and mortality. That said, should we place any emphasis on his wording "big change?"
What we do know is that he was being intentionally deceptive, secretive—even elusive—with everyone around him...
Aun - Mental health/drug or alcohol rehab or counseling?
His dad had tried calling him for a few days. Martin was alive and well in those days, but purposefully chose to ignore it.
Aun - Mental health/drug or alcohol rehab or counseling?
He intentionally lied about his whereabouts, offering different accounts of his whereabouts, knowing perhaps that the stories could be compared and his lies discovered, but it just seems like he didn't care.
Aun - Mental health/drug or alcohol rehab or counseling?
He suddenly, and without warning, withdrew from his main social networks, especially his frat, which to me says he felt like he needed to get away from things he perceived as "bad influences."
Aun - I completely agree this point is important. Perhaps he was getting away from the "Hazing" Perhaps he was being "Hazed" for the "Big Change" The problem with the data set is we just don't know the full scope of where his phone was and at what times. Can we reconcile witness statement with his phone. Without this info, the reasons why he withdrew and did not respond are just speculation. We need this info. Where did he frequent? Was there a certain time he would turn off his tracking and if so, how long would it stay off. Time = distance right? Anyway, the fact that he withdrew seems to me like he was making changes and when someone is making changes they are not without hope.
And lastly, when he left, he took nothing with him (except his state ID, apparently). No phone, no tablet, no wallet, no money. Nothing to say that he'd be gone long. Nothing to help him survive for extended periods of time. Because he knew he didn't want to survive long.
Aun - Don't forget his food was missing. Either a room mate took his food, knowing he wouldn't be back or James Martin took the food. Again, I mentioned what I thought about this in another post so won't double down here except to say I believe it's inconsistent to take food if you didn't expect to need it wherever you were going and no need for ID unless conducting some form of transaction. Some will argue he was suicidal and took his ID to ensure his body was identified, but if this was the case it would make no sense to conduct THAT sort of transaction where he couldn't be found AND likely RULES OUT any lake or river for fear the ID would be damaged to the point of being unrecognizable. Nope, I just don't see it with the data. I see a kid that was figuring things out, bought food for a specific purpose and needed that ID for a reason. I just don't see a suicide here.