Bravo, well said.:clap::clap: One of the most difficult things to accept, as Alice Miller said, is the idea that parents can be malevolent. It goes against a deeply rooted idea that to not "honor thy mother and father" is a mortal sin.I doubt she was born that way. Maybe she was born more needy, but there are many studies that indicate what we should do as parents and what happens when we do not.
Not answering a baby's cries. Leaving children in front of the TV or in containers such as playpens, baby seats, fighting with your spouse, even if the baby is asleep, propping the bottle. Many many things . And then there are the obvious cigarette burns, wallops, etc.
I taught school for 30 years in poverty schools. i had 100's of students. In that time, I had two students that did not respond to positive reinforcement. Ignoring the bad and responding to the appropriate,
The two children. One the mother had made RAD and no hope working with the mother to make the child's life better. The other one was spoiled rotten and the mother and grandparents would not admit that the child did anything wrong. It was ALWAYS someone else's fault.
I believe in parenting errors. Huge errors. Lack of love is probably the biggest one that causes issues.
Parents may nit like reading this, but if we do not work on raising children, we are in deep doo doo
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This idea that Jodi was born a monster, and that her poor family grew weary of dealing with the beast, is making a HUGE leap, jumping to a massive conclusion without sufficient evidence, and assuming that this rare, rare case of the ogre who is "born that way" is a better explanation than that it was her parents' fault, which is FAR more common and far more likely.
I have a sister who is very much like Jodi (but has not killed----done plenty of crazy things, though). She was not born a monster, but was ignored as were her siblings, witnessed extreme parental fighting, etc. I always see my parents' sins reflected in her behavior.