I'm usually pretty quick to jump on Mom's. But it's clear that this woman was never supposed to have any resources outside her marriage. That's how her marriage was designed, to make her completely powerless. A more extreme and helpless version of Susan Cox and Andrea Yates. It's not like he wanted her to come back because he loved her and wanted to make their family work. He wanted her to come back to keep the kids out of the way and the house clean. It's clear he shouldn't have had custody of the kids because of that attitude. I doubt he did much child care before he got custody so he was ill equipped. However, I can see why she felt it was a losing battle. She was likely hoping that by playing nice he'd play nice. I'm sure now she wishes that she'd brought out all his history and fought harder. I don't know how she goes on either. I know she does have another daughter now and I'm sure that helps. I never would have gotten that far. I'd have absolutely killed myself, there's no doubt in my mind. Maybe she started out really psychologically healthy or something. I am never able to understand how people who've lost one child peacefully manage to go on, much less all of them violently. My sister is giving birth to her first boy tomorrow after 5 girls, including #4 who was stillborn. I don't know how she does it. These ladies are stronger than I am but I wish they didn't have to be.