I want to be careful not to accuse someone who might be suffering quite a bit right now. And I really don't have a strong opinion about what could've happened.
I really hope she left and is okay. Just taking a break.
But it is a scary case and I have concerns about not only the husband, but also about her if she did voluntarily leave because sometimes people who do so are not acting rationally and can harm their kids and themselves. However I'm not accusing either of them. I have no idea what happened and don't have a strong feeling or gut instinct yet.
Nevertheless, I did want to post a couple things about family annihilators, just for sake of discussion:
"Family annihilators were overwhelmingly not known to criminal justice or mental health services. For all intents and purposes these were loving husbands and good fathers, often holding down high profile jobs and seen publicly as being very, very successful. They were simply not on the radar."
"There are a variety of ways for men to be men, but what really is happening with family annihilation is that these are usually men who will reach a tipping point about various things within the particular category of family annihilator that we identify. To see it simply [as being] about women having a greater role [in modern society] might be trying to imply the woman is responsible, whereas in fact it's always about the man."
Study: family killers are usually men and fit one of four distinct profiles | WIRED UK
“For many family annihilators, the act of murder is a way of re-establishing control that he feels he has lost over the family,” said Jack Levin, professor of sociology and criminology at Northeastern University in Boston.
Experts have profile of fathers who kill family