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I notice how DY tenses up next to TH - the word that came to me when TH first really tries to comfort DY when TY goes up to speak was that DY bristles when TH touches her...seems to me that she physically pulls slightly away, subtle but there.
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Hiya Boo,
Agreed! Absolutely... Bristle is the word, but I see a very "careful" bristle one that is meant to not make a scene.
Looking really closely... I see the tip ends of Terri's curved fingers against Desiree's shoulder. This type of touch is weird to me, it is like an approach, an invitation but not necessarily a "feeling" warm approach, like if the "fingerprint" area pads and inside area of the fingers are resting on the shoulder to comfort. There is a difference here, but it isn't one that my husband caught when I just tested it with him several times.
NOTE TO SELF: Revelation! Why am I seeing what I am seeing and feeling what I am feeling "about what I am seeing" in the video based upon my own personal experience. When my husband and I are in bed together and he is laying to my right side and "on his back" sleeping AND I want to "coax" (or direct, or goad) him to roll over on his right side (i.e. lift that left shoulder off the bed and roll over on your right side bubba), I slip my right hand under his left shoulder (between it and the mattress) and start tapping the "tips" -- the "TIPS" -- of my fingers repetitively against his back/left shoulder. Sometimes I tap slowly and gently, other times more forcefully and quickly (if the soft touch doesn't get him moving). I might do this type of action if he is snoring and I am trying to "direct him" saying, "Roll over now so that you can breathe better" -- basically, I'm not asking him -- I'm telling him "Do this now!" WHEN, on the other hand, I am in a more gentle and "willing to compromise" mood about him turning on his right side (i.e. because I'm tired of laying on my back and am ready to "spoon" to the right but if he doesn't want to do this, okay, I'll turn left) AND maybe I'm feeling more compromising because he hasn't been feeling well, I will use my right hand under his shoulder and use "MY FINGER PADS" to tap him and gently "nudge" him to lift his left shoulder and turn right. For me, I guess I am seeing that my finger tips are used more often for "directing" or "coaxing" or "goading" -- my finger pads are more often used in sensitivity and open invitation.
Back on track...
In Terri's "fingertips" touching Desiree, I see a very quick type of "querying" -- a type of "I'm directing you to lean into me" BUT Desiree doesn't respond. So, I see a quick and subtle type of tug of Terri with her fingertips to move Desiree into leaning on her but Desiree doesn't do it. She bounces back to an erect state, somewhat like those old punching bag toys. You punch them one way, they return to straight up.
ALSO NOTEABLE:
Watch Desiree's eyes and mouth when that quick tug by Terri happens and Desiree bristles. Desiree's very quick "looking up" and then down eyes seem to VERY quickly say, "Get me through this God" If I were going to further guess her emotions, she did NOT want Terri touching her. She seems to kind gasp a touch, as if to say, "Please don't let her do that again, I can't take it." All the while, I feel like Desiree is trying to avoid some type of scene that she feels is being forced upon her by Terri's motions.
