Found Alive TX - Melissa Highsmith, 21 mos, Fort Worth, 23 Aug 1971 *found alive in 2022*

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shadowangel said:
Alta was living with a roommate...Alta left for her waitressing job and left Melissa in the care of the roommate. The roomie turned Melissa over to the babysitter.
I found something interesting about the composite of the babysitter...I'm going to see if I can get some help, as I'm still picture-posting challenged.
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I'm dying to know what you found!
 
:laugh: I'm just hoping he's not about to post a side by side comparison with Hadden Clark!!!!
 
I'm pulling this post (done by Jolayne1963) from the Sharon Marshall forum. It's the article from the Ft. Worth Star Telegram which is similar to what I heard on the Dallas news yesterday. I noticed, though, that there's no mention of the kidnapper possibly being a man dressed up like a woman.

Police Reopen case in 1971 kidnapping! News Article
I'm so excited! Yesterday, as I was entering a restaurant, I glanced at the Ft. Worth Star-Telegram newspaper rack and was surprised and happy to see front page news about the reopening of Melissa Suzanne Highsmith's disappearance. I'm posting the whole article otherwise a link won't be viewable after a week, as it will go into archives and will have to be paid for. I think Melissa's baby picture looks somewhat like Suzanne Davis, but brown hair doesn't usually turn blonde, does it? I also noticed she appears to have a "lazy" left eye. If this is the case, would she outgrow it, or could she still have it? The article is as follows=
http://www.dfw.com/mld/dfw/news/13932309.htm

Police reopen case in 1971 kidnapping

By DEANNA BOYD

STAR-TELEGRAM STAFF WRITER

FORT WORTH -- Alta Apantenco packed away her mementos of her eldest daughter long ago.

Her ex-husband, Jeff Highsmith, keeps the little girl's photograph in his bedroom, where he can see it every day.

They are parents who have coped with the loss of their daughter in very different ways. What they share is a grief that few others know, grappling not with the untimely death of a child but with a mystery that's gone unsolved for 34 years.

That's when Apantenco says a woman who answered an ad she placed for a baby sitter picked up 21-month-old Melissa Suzanne Highsmith from the single mother's south Fort Worth apartment and never brought her back.

Now the abduction case has been reopened, and police hope modern technology may finally bring answers.

"I want it to be true, that they're going to be able to actually find her through this. But I'm not going to get my hopes up, because I've gotten my hopes up so many times and it's provided nothing," said Apantenco, 57, now remarried and living in Aurora, Ill. "It would make me the happiest person on Earth if I could find her, even after all this time."

Jeff Highsmith, 55, who also lives in Aurora, gets goose bumps imagining that he might someday see his daughter again.

"I've never really given up hope. I feel like someone took this kid and raised her as their own child," Highsmith said. "She's probably got kids of her own, and she doesn't even know her real name. She's probably content and happy, thinking the person who raised her is her parent."

Toddler disappears

Melissa vanished on a Monday morning. A few months before, Apantenco, then 22, had returned to Fort Worth after separating from Highsmith, a musician.

A waitress at a downtown restaurant, Apantenco placed an ad in the Star-Telegram seeking a baby sitter for the rambunctious toddler, who loved spaghetti and cookies.

The reply from a woman who identified herself over the telephone as Ruth Johnson seemed too good to be true.

"She said that she had a nice big house, had a big back yard and other children to watch," Apantenco recalled in a recent interview. "I said that sounds really good, because Melissa loves to play outside."

The two made plans to meet at Apantenco's job, but Johnson never showed up. The woman later called Apantenco again and convinced the young mother that she really wanted the job. In a decision she regrets, Apantenco agreed that Johnson could pick up the girl that Monday morning.

"She sounded like somebody who would be capable of taking care of Melissa," Apantenco recalled. "I didn't like the idea of not meeting her, but that's just the way it happened. ... I think of all the mistakes I made. It's too late to go back."

When Johnson arrived at the Spanish Gate apartments on East Seminary Drive on Aug. 23, 1971, Apantenco was already at work. Apantenco's roommate would later tell police that the woman seemed nice, was wearing white gloves and appeared dressed to impress.

The roommate handed the woman a pink dress, a pair of white sandals and some diapers for Melissa, and the woman and child left.

Apantenco returned home from work and waited for her daughter to be brought back.

"She didn't come, and so I thought, well she's running a little late. I waited an hour. I was starting to get a little bit worried. Two hours went by and I said, 'Something's wrong.'" With no way to reach the woman, Apantenco called police. Within days the FBI would join in the search for Melissa.

A composite of the suspect was released to the media.

Days slipped into weeks, and weeks dissolved into months, with no word of Melissa's whereabouts.

Apantenco said she felt police and some of her relatives suspected that she was behind Melissa's disappearance, something she strongly denies.

"That baby was all I had. That was my world. When my world was taken away, I was crushed," she said. Apantenco said that for a time, she turned to alcohol and drugs.

"I cursed God," she said. "I said, 'Why don't you just kill me? You took my baby. Why don't you just kill me now?'"

Later, Apantenco said, she reclaimed her life, reuniting with Highsmith, whom she remarried in 1973.

Although she would never understand Melissa's disappearance, Apantenco said she came to accept it.

"I just believe that she was raised somewhere where someone loved her and was taking care of her," Apantenco said. "Maybe I wasn't a fit mother. I was young and stupid. Maybe God thought someone else needed to take care of her.

"But I've always believed that she was alive somewhere. I've never felt in my heart that she was dead."

Searching for a sister

Highsmith and Apantenco had three more daughters and a son together before separating again in 1998.

Their first daughter, Rebecca, born in 1974, seemed the spitting image of the older sister she would never meet. "I couldn't believe how much this baby looked like Melissa," Highsmith said. "You can never replace one child with another, but it was like the Lord was saying, 'I know you've lost your daughter, but I'm giving you more children.' I felt some joy in that."

Rebecca Delbosque, 31, said she grew up knowing she had an older sister. "There were a few times when my parents actually thought they found her. I remember them taking trips," Delbosque said. "Then it turned up not being her. I think that kind of discouraged them. They kind of gave up because no one was really helping them."

Delbosque said her father was open about talking about Melissa. She remembers poring through a file he kept at work filled with newspaper clippings about the abduction.

But in front of her mother, the topic of Melissa was taboo.

"I think my mom probably feels very guilty about what happened," Delbosque said. "She's very hurt."

Apantenco said the pain was then, and is still now, too great.

"When they brought her name up, I said I'm not going to talk about it. It hurts. It hurts so much," Apantenco said, breaking into tears. "I didn't put her photo in a frame where I could see it. I stored it all away. I kept them, and every once in a while I'd look through them for a few minutes and then put it away."

But the photographs that had been tucked away are seeing light again.

Detective Bryan Jamison reopened the case after a caller to the Star-Telegram raised questions about it. Although that call hasn't led to a break in the case, Jamison said he is hopeful that Melissa is still alive.

"I think they were probably correct initially when they assumed it was someone with a maternal instinct that wanted to have a child of their own and, for whatever reason, didn't," Jamison said.

Because of Melissa's age when taken, Jamison believes that her kidnapper could have easily concealed the girl. As the girl grew older, he theorizes, the woman could have enrolled her in school under a new identity.

"She could possibly be walking around today at 36 years of age, having no idea whatsoever that her mother is not her natural birth mother," Jamison said.

Using old photographs of Melissa and her parents, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children has created a computer-generated photograph of what Melissa might look like today.

Jamison said he plans to send DNA samples from Melissa's parents to the University of North Texas Health Science Center. The database compares DNA samples from family members with unidentified remains.

"That's not exactly the ending we're looking for, but at least it would allow for closure," Jamison said.

For Melissa's family, any news would be welcome. "Even if she doesn't turn out to be living, at least my family will have the knowledge of how she grew up and what happened in her life, and we'll have some closure," Delbosque said.

But, like her parents, Delbosque said she believes her sister is alive. She'd like Melissa to one day meet her 9-year-old daughter, Caitlin Melissa Delbosque.

"I might have nieces or nephews or a brother-in-law I don't know about," Delbosque said. "Family is very important to me. I think it's important for my family -- my kids -- to know they have an aunt that is out there somewhere that they just don't know."

Anyone with information about the case is asked to call Jamison at (817) 392-4440.

Deanna Boyd, (817) 390-7655 dboyd@star-telegram.com

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Incidentally, my ex-boyfriend was born with platinum blonde hair. When he was quite young it fell out and grew back jet-black and stayed that way -- except for an odd whitish patch in the front. (No one knows why.) I'm mentioning this to show that sometimes people's hair color can change radically, brown to blonde doesn't sound so implausible.
 
I have a few questions as always hehe.I was wondering how old the room mate thought the woman was because in the sketch she appears to be an old woman, I would like to know what her race is her age, and the race and age of the children that she had with her also did the police canvas the nieghborhood to see if they could find the house that was described or ask anybody else if they had seen this woman or if she had tried to answer an ad in the paper for them and maybe they sent her away maybe they got more info on her that the police could have used to track her down it would be in the police report. like say a car or a lady with four kids came into the grocery store tidbits like that always leave a sightings trail like follow the leader. there were also not so legitimate adoption rings out there at that time and anything is possible.:twocents:
 
I didn't realize there were 3 threads going on this, kind of makes it a little confusing:

I'm copying my post from the missing thread and Sharon Marshall's thread here too:

I am so glad they have all of this onfo out there and posted now.

I just want to add a note after reading the description. Her 3" birthmark may have faded or completey disappeared over time. Our youngest was born with a bright red 1" circular birthmark on her upper back, you couldn't miss it, but now that she is almost 10 years old it has faded and moved to her lower back as she has grown. Now it is a light brown color that you have to actually look for to see it.
This may or may not be the case with Melissa -just wanted to through it out there in case someone got hung up on the birthmark.
 
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pic courtesy of Hollow


Shadowangel, is this the sketch you are referring to? Please tell us what you see. Sorry it's so small. If I try to enlarge it the details of the face become blurred.
 
mysteriew said:
Does anyone know if there were any other babies kidnapped or attempted kidnappings of babies during this time?

The reason I am asking is in 1987, a baby was taken to the hospital and admitted by her parents. The mother was comforted by a nurse, who then took the baby and disappeared. The hospital denys the nurse was an employee. Other hospital employees saw the "nurse" near the area the baby disappeared from.
http://www.charleyproject.org/cases/w/white_carlina.html
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/crime_file/story/392689p-333006c.html

What struck me the most, was the elaborate ruse, the ruse was such as to lead one to hope that the child was taken by someone with "maternal feelings" and they involved young babies. And they seemed to target people on the lower end of the economic pool.
Differences are the number of years in between and the races of the babies as well as geography.
Now here is the interesting part. When Carlina was abducted, there were three other abductions of babies within 2 states (NY and NJ). At least one of those abductions was not thought to be related. LE suspected a possible illegal adoption/baby stealing ring might be in the area.
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Mysteriew, check out the thread that I started on Delia Cly here in cold cases. I found her case while looking for an answer to your question in this post about other abductions. http://www.websleuths.com/forums/showthread.php?t=36765
 
Good morning all. I haven't been able to post much lately but I've taken the time to read all the posts today.

1st-I checked out the thread for Delia Cly. Some people have told me that she may be a match for Melissa but she is 41 and my sister would be 36. The times are off a little.

2nd-I emailed the news article along with pictures to everyone in my address book and asked them to forward to everyone in theirs and so on.

3rd-I wanted to include a link for anyone who is interested in printing posters of the missing persons report and print them and post them anywhere they can.

Here's the link. http://www.ncmec.org/missingkids/servlet/PubCaseSearchServlet?act=viewPoster&caseNum=1037093&orgPrefix=NCMC&searchLang=en_US

I'll continue to keep everyone updated on the progress.

They still haven't done the DNA test on my parents. We are still waiting to see if Sharon and Melissa are a match.
 
The composite drawing of the babysitter/kidnapper looks like the sketch of the Zodiac. In drag. Spooky.
 
Hollow said:
:laugh: I'm just hoping he's not about to post a side by side comparison with Hadden Clark!!!!
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LOL!!!!HAHAHAHAHAHAHA~I THINK THE SITTER SOLD HIS WIG TO HADDEN.

(I KNOW THIS IS A SERIOUS MATTER, BUT IT'S NICE TO BE ABLE TO FIND SOMETHING TO LAUGH ABOUT NOW AND THEN). I AM SORRY IF ANYONE IS OFFENDED.
 
I wonder if this case weren't given more national attention because the mother was embarassed or guilt-stricken. I may be completely wrong here, but with these baby-stealing situations, it could easily be that a mother believed some scheme, lost her child, and then felt terrible and didn't report the case to the fullest extent.

This is JUST speculation, I by no means intend to imply that any mother is uncaring or negligent in reporting her missing child.

Kelly
 
azure said:
I wonder if this case weren't given more national attention because the mother was embarassed or guilt-stricken. I may be completely wrong here, but with these baby-stealing situations, it could easily be that a mother believed some scheme, lost her child, and then felt terrible and didn't report the case to the fullest extent.

This is JUST speculation, I by no means intend to imply that any mother is uncaring or negligent in reporting her missing child.

Kelly
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One of the articles I read said M's mom thought some family members and police suspected she had something to do with Melissa's disappearance. From what I've read, the police felt like her statement about who she thought may have abducted M wasn't what LE thought she should have said. To me it sounded like the statement of a mom in shock and not knowing what to think or where to turn.

If LE suspected her I doubt they looked very hard for any other suspects right away and of course time is a big factor in abductions.


And unfortunately the abduction of the child of a young, divorced mom working as a waitress wouldn't get as much LE or media attention as say, the Lindbergh baby.
 
Here are a couple links I think Melissa should be registered at.
The 2nd link has a section called "Were you kidnapped as a baby?" It has a list, broken down by decades, of missing babies. It gives red flags to look for when you think you may have been abducted as a child. For example, altered or no proof of birth, no baby pics, etc and there are SO many interesting links that are related to what we do in our research efforts. Sleuthers should bookmark the site.

http://someoneismissing.com/

http://hot-on-the-trail-at.blog-city.com
 
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