I dunno. We’re responsible for our own safety, and I think it’s important to learn what we can from these cases.
That “sugar baby” who was interviewed, pointed out that many of these women don’t realize what they are getting into, and the risks they may be taking.
I’m with you on the sensationalized way this sort of thing is exploited though.
It’s a weird situation, because no one deserves to be a victim, nor is any victim responsible for the actions of a monster.
But we can do things to minimize risk, and I think that should be the message here.
I know you know this from past posts, and thus this post isn't directed "to you" and is a random jumping-off point; but the message the KL story teaches is not reinventing the wheel here.
Human beings "can" do a lot of things.
This includes young women just starting out their lives.
This does not, however, necessarily mean that the things the young women (or men) choose to do with their lives are
wise.
There's also a difference between "victim blaming", IMO, and saying "such and such was a stupid thing to do"; but in many situations it seems we're no longer societally allowed to offer vehement verbal guidelines to young men and women heading in the wrong direction, because that is shaming and blaming, and thus impinging on their all-important rights to autonomy.
I, for example, have a perfect right to go and live in a known drug area, because "rents are cheap".
This doesn't necessarily mean that my choosing to live in the known drug area is wise.
It also doesn't necessarily mean that I am "asking to be murdered", but if there are shootouts daily on the street, I have to understand that this is a situation with increased odds of probability that I have exacerbated by my actions.
There are some men who even sign up with professional escort services "just to talk, or to have someone to go to an event with".
I do, however, think we have to understand, and most do, that this is a situation outside of the norm; and that most men do hire "escorts" with the understanding that activity of a sexual nature will take place. These men tend to need a veneer of societal approval in order to engage in such behaviors.
This doesn't mean the behaviors are not engaged in; and saying that something is a "high risk situation/high risk behavior" is not, IMO, MOO, necessarily "blaming the victim". It's just using common sense. A system without legal checks and balances, lends itself to the potential for abuse.
My telling a child that a hot stove, if touched, will not burn them; does not mean that I have changed the scientific properties of thermodynamics.
It simply means that I have gone and lied to a vulnerable child, who put their trust in me not to do so.