slightly OT:
I have a friend whose son was murdered 4 weeks ago. They caught a man and a woman FINALLY (hooray) (they look like scum in their mug shots). Well, I thought I saw that some sort of court thing was coming up on a specific date. I gingerly asked my friend if she would be there (I would be!) --she said the most remarkable thing..she said, Well, no one told me about any court thing, and I'm letting the authorities tell me what I need to do and where I need to be.
WOW. I had to think how un-anthony a response that is....and how wise.