Okay, my apologies in advance if this becomes a long post. I've got numerous family and friends in and from Aus, and I've just had a long conversation with my best friend in Sydney about this case. I will reference his comments during this diatribe.
I've listened to AB's 911 call, and I know that many people find his "Hey, how ya doin'?" odd. I must tell you that I found it completely normal. This is a *very* common way to start any conversation in Australia. At least it is with my friends and family. When I told Ec (my best friend) about it he said, "Yeah, that's Oz." and then went on to say, "yeah I got a problem with me arm.. sawn right off.. she'll be right tho, got a towel wrapped around it." He found nothing odd or sinister in his starting that phone call that way. I'd love to hear from our Aussie members whether they find it odd or not.
Then he went on to say something that surprised even me. "I'm actually surprised he called 911 for a missing person." So I asked him who he would call, and he said he'd just ring the local police station. So maybe it isn't so odd that AB called his boss before calling 911, or seems to not know what to say. I'd love to hear what the boss has to say about the conversation they had.:waitasec:
All in all, I'm still leaning towards AB being dense to everything, either because he was working so much or because child-rearing is the woman's domain, or a combination of the two. And boy, oh boy, do I hope I'm not going to eat crow on this one. (If I have to, I'd appreciate someone passing the salt shaker.)
P.S. I'm not saying AB shouldn't face the consequences of his actions. But I do believe he's been living with the biggest consequence for the last 12 days. Where are you Zahra? Know we're all looking for you, hoping for the best (a miracle) and preparing for the worst.
Okay, here's an Aussies imput re: emergency calls.
This year I have made two calls to police. First one was when some teens set off a small bomb in the park right next to our house.
My kids and I were so shaken and scared by it, that I immediately dialled 000 (our emergency number) and was really panicked when I spoke to them.
There was no immediate danger to my family at this time, but I was all over the place ....couldn't remember the name of the park, my phone number etc.
Second call was just recent, when my sister said she was going to kill herself and since she had just recently taken an overdose, I took her seriously.
I
didn't call 000, I called her local police station, and I'm pretty sure I started out by saying, "Hi. I'm really sorry to bother you but....."
That situation was more of an immediate concern, yet I was talking calmly to the officer.
I was genuinely concerned about my sister, but because I didn't know with absolute certainty what the heck was going on, I was a bit embarrassed about calling them, not wanting to put them out if my sister was just talking .
So I can kinda understand AB being so calm...
if he really didn't know what the heck was going on.
I don't think it's just an Aussie thing to be cool calm and relaxed when making a phone call to police or emergency services, it depends on the person
and the circumstances.
Also want to quickly add, I don't think AB is 'slow' or stupid.
I think the man had emotionally checked out a long time ago, possibly due to depression from being a single dad who had to rely on his mum and the community for so much help, and watching his daughter fight cancer, not once, but twice, and losing her leg and some hearing.
Men are far less likely to reach out for help if they are suffering depression, which is why their suicide rate is higher.
And a depressed person is an easy target for a manipulater like EB.
JMO
PS Can 'ya keep that salt shaker handy for me? And I might need some bandaids too for all the fence-sitting splinters.