Just a little defensive post - (not for the mom's sake - even though she is still allegedly the one responsible - it has not been proven and there is not a solid fact thrown out for us yet.) It is okay to assume but I still think a person deserves a fair trial because we are respectful human beings. We have humanity unlike the perps who committed this horrendous crime.
I do want to say - I live in a run down trailer. My child's father lives in a really nice house. I'm a single mom working a full time job and I do classify myself as a wonderful mother. I do everything I can to raise a great child. Just because my financial status does not allow me to live in a house (still dreaming for a nice house) does not reflect on who I am. Just because the father lives in a nice house (he does not own this house) it does not reflect on who he is. My neighbors do not reflect on who I am.
I have noticed in a few different threads on this site that people will instantly bash someone's place of residency if they live in a trailer and I just would like people to think for a moment before doing so. A place of residency does not necessarily reflect on who that person is. Monsters come out of nice brick homes as well.
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hun i live in a run down trailer too .. so i dont think of ppl as trailer trash either .. it doesnt matter where you live or how well you live .. it doesnt change how evil a person is or how good a person is ..they are who they are or what they are no matter what
Great posts, both of you. It was decided in the case of that hideous woman in the baby Shannon case, that her husband's kids be given to dad because mom was destitute and dad had a "decent" home. The evil "babysitter" then married the man.
His son was reported missing after the babysitter claimed she but him down for a nap in that "decent" home. He has never been found. The boys sister was covered with bruises, had evidence of multiple broken bones and I think, bite marks, all incurred in that "decent" home. Babysitter was convicted of child abuse and spent only a few months in jail on what should have been a ten year sentence. Years later, she is jailed for kidnapping baby Shannon.
In the state of California, poverty, on it's own, is not grounds for a denial of child custody. Instead, child support is used to make sure the child can live a fairly equal lifestyle in either home.
If poverty had not been used as a factor in deciding custody in the above-stated case, the little boy would still be alive (I'm sure he's dead) and the little girl would likely not have been abused.
It is not the housing or the income level that indicates to me that a person should not have custody. However, sometimes poverty or diminished living conditions can be a sign of dysfunction, depending on the circumstances.
I can't imagine how this tragedy involving Shaniya could have been predicted. It's so sick and twisted, it's hard to imagine. But, the drugs, apparent work history, DCFS involvement and the various different people crowded into Shaniya's last home were huge red flags that this was not a good environment for Shaniya. I would have thought neglect, physical abuse and sexual abuse at the hands of mommy dearest's "boyfriends" were risks. But, not this.
The best people and the best parents I have ever known have been people without money. Some of the worst I have known were people with money. But, I don't think this case has anything to do with money. It has to do with something so evil it is beyond comprehension, if in fact the mother sold her child. And I do believe she did. I don't think LE would level such charges lightly.
So, I join with those who say that people without money should not be judged and I join with those who say that people who wilfully abuse little children should be sent to the devil from whence they came.