Finally looking thru BC's site - well actually reading instead of just looking that is - and to his credit he does give N a thumbs up during his discussion of the 2006 FL Ironman event. Who knows there may be more that I've not gotten to yet. Regardless it's good to see another mention of his family (and N specifically) - but to be fair it is obvious the blog is focused on training, etc so not writing about the family doesn't seem abnormal in any way. And I absolutely agree with his statement that having pictures and information about the children online isn't a good idea! So, yes, I can see that the other site might have started out about the little ones but was cleaned up to protect them!
I can also see that some of the info (on his blog) could have been extremely useful when it came to the affidavits (on behalf of N's family) which stated that he worked out however many hours at a time. This information may or may not have been accurate, but it's certainly possible for someone/anyone to read his blog, make assumptions and then take it step further and make it sound like a routine (without ever seeing it or even hearing about it from NC or BC). In fact it was stated that N never complained about his competition/training, and it seems this may have been at least one area where they were compatible (shared interest).
So as far as the custody issue, I'd have to throw out most - if not all - statements regarding his training and the implications that it would interfere with his ability to take care of the children. Granted if he wanted to go to LTF for a late night swim he'd need a babysitter, but imo that's a non-issue. People do adjust their routines when children are involved - and this is especially true for single parents. Bottom line for me is it might have sounded good but there's not much to support it, and there's absolutely nothing that indicates it would be a problem given the change in circumstances.
And FWIW it doesn't look like BC has, at this point, signed up for the 9/14 Duke Half Ironman competition in Raleigh -- SH is on the participant list. (Actually I'm only finding him (BC) on the 2005 result list but I might be missing him.)
IMO the blog doesn't come off as narcissistic --not to say other things about him don't or that he's not-- just that the blog is more of an it is what it is thing, and that it could have provided information that was included in at least one affidavit re the custody issue. Just another FWIW... and another reason for me to wish the clock could be turned back and the tragedy averted...