It's taken my mother almost six years now, and she still says she isn't ready to put up a headstone. She doesn't want to deal with concrete evidence that my father has died. I had to force her to fill out the form to get his bronze military footstone in place, or he would be lying in an unmarked grave today, six years after he died. I don't feel good about it.
I can see reluctance on the part of the Rs to put up a headstone for JonBenet perhaps because it was an unexpected death (that and they were ready to leave that poor girl to exist merely in photos and memories and "move on with their lives".) They say in DOI pg 247 that they were putting up the stone when they did to beat the one year anniversary of her death to avoid media censure at not having one. They order one, and when they're told it won't be ready until January, they pull strings to get in done and in place by December 23rd...again, to save face.
I am willing to bet the situation will be different with Patsy and her headstone will be in place well before a year has passed by. Not only was her death expected, but it's considered a release due to her suffering through cancer. She had plenty of time to write out what she wants it to say herself. I'm guessing there will be some comment about her being such a giving person, loving wife and mother, wonderful sister and/or daughter, and Bible verse. I wouldn't be at all surprised to hear of mention of angels and Miss West Virginia.