I like to think of myself as an old and advanced soul. The bigger picture that we don’t all agree on…I too can agree with compassion and forgiveness, but I’m just not there yet. I know that my vision of a precious child Sandra was happily playing and not bothering anyone; doing what a child is suppose to do…and then came a monster. Sorry, but I’m not there yet…if ever. Thankfully, it really doesn’t matter how I feel, as long as justice is served for Sandra.
I'm with you. I also am very compassionate. I can't hurt a fly. Literally. I feel deeply for people for the smallest hurts they suffer. I cannot satnd seeing people or animals in pain. But, I cannot feel pity for MH right now. I feel sorry for the child she
used to be because I sense that she was probably molested when young. I feel sorry for that
child. But not for the
adult MH who made a conscious decision to act out her own misery by harming another - an innocent, little kid.
We have free will as humans, even disturbed humans. IMO, MH's sick thoughts took precedence over the human rights of little Sandra to live without assault, to be innocent, to be free from harm and to just be.
MH killed her. That was a choice. She knew it was wrong. That is obvious from her post-crime conduct and the way she committed the crime. I apologize if I offend but given these facts, I cannot empathize at the moment. Not for the person she is today.
Reading this article, I do believe MH has a significant Munchausen's component. I do not believe she was raped by a police officer. Claiming rape or claiming to be the victim of another type of crime is very common for people with Munchausen's and Munchausen's by proxy. Interestingly, she also claims to have been assaulted by two exes and her small child is thin and "sickly". The cutting and suicidial ideation and suicide attempt via swallowing razor blades, no less, also fits such a disorder, from what I have learned.
These are people who don't mind hurting themselves or others for attention.
I find it signficant that LE may not have looked at MH if she had not inserted herself into the case by speaking with the media, writing the note and saying the things she did. It seems to me that she may have wanted to get attention by harming a child and then discover "clues" herself that would make her stand out as someone who found something important. Sorry, but these types never engender pity within me. Their sick desire to be noticed regardless of the lives that may be destroyed due to their wants, disgusts me. It's evil.
But, the apparent sexual assault of Sandra before killing her points to something even more sinister than even Munchausen's. I think there may be a pedophilic element as well. I can't find any pity for these types either. Again, they are deciding that their desires, their wants, are more important than an innocent child's need to remain safe, whole and alive.
MH is disturbed, likely because of her childhood, but she clearly knew right from wrong and had control over what she did. That she committed the crime in secret and then tried to cover it up proves that, IMO. Being disturbed may explain the impulses involved in the commission of a crime but it is not an excuse and it certainly should not be a mitigating factor: The majority of people abused in childhood and/or disturbed adults, do NOT become defilers of children. It is a choice.
IMO the adult MH does not deserve our pity, due to the choice she made. My pity is reserved for sweet little Sandra who just wanted to play and have fun being a kid and her devastated family who will not get to put their arms around that little girl for the rest of their days on earth.