Cha-Cha, I am so sorry for you loss - what an awful tragedy for your family. My prayers are with all of you.
With regards to custody of Lacey's son -- I am sure your family knows all about Cook County -- they have a way of doing things a little backwards here, at times. Esp, with custody issues and fathers rights ---this is some muddy water we have had to navigate with my sisters child, semi-similar situation as laceys-- I know one of the top family law attorneys in Chicago -- she is a chew you up and spit you out type of woman - please let me know if there is anything else I could help you with!!!!