Nova, to answer your question and get back on topic, which is a parenting topic.
First, as a parent I would have to weigh my choices and how each and every one of my choices as a parent affects my child. That not only includes choices for education but also choices for my partner as well as the neighborhood I chose to reside. In my world the child ALWAYS comes first. A parent integrates themself into the childs life not vice versa.
I think if this were only a preschool type environment the mothers relationship would not be an issue. Or at least I would like to.... Giving this individual situation consideration I would ask myself as a parent if I chose to enroll my child in a pre-k through 8th grade school
I as a parent, would like to incorporate my child into a diverse tolerant community - that I could afford -
Overall the majority of parents have no choice but to enroll their children in public school. The majority of people will choose a residence based on how well school district rates within the state.
Are we an integrated society? Not everywhere.
Do we make presumptions? Yep, all the time.
Which is why I immediately wanted to know about this couples particular situation and their choices within their community.
Hence looking at the schools site directly.
http://www.sves.org/tuition_schedule_2010-2011.pdf
http://www.sves.org/testimonials.html
looking around the site, the campus is beautiful. Very small class sizes.
Obviously a school of choice, but is this the only choice in an area with a poor choice of schools. Think of it in comparison to the Chicago Public schools which are pretty much known to be a train wreck.
The testimonials speak of other 'excellent' public schools, so was this really the only option? OR was their perhaps a better fit?
It sounds to me that perhaps the school was misrepresenting itself as an Episcipalian church when it is not and has broken away from those beliefs. Why as a parent the moms didn't learn that when reading through the school site I don't know.
Is it REALLY a matter of 'homophobia'? or is it a matter of the choices of schools in the area and if the area doesn't offer what they are looking for?
Personally I try to look at the individual situation.
Then on the other hand.... what if these were two mothers were a biological mom and a step mom who coparented succesfully and the childs bio father died? Both bio mom and step mom continued to share custody... Then we would have an entirely different situation which was not at all related to their sexual orientation. So we DO in fact have a situation of 'discrimination'. A situation, which for myself as a parent, I would have to ask myself if I wished to belong to a 'religious community' in which my child would be put in a position of shame if her mommies or daddies demonstrated affection. In which case, imo, it once again goes to the various conservative or more liberal choices within the Christian community and as a whole those choices do exist......
I hope that makes sense..... I'm in the midwest so definately a moderate.
hth