The sibling is living "normal" life as an adult far away from where I am, thank God. I do not see sibling often - haven't now for about 10 years but I do get a call once in a while.
We've often heard speculation about a chemical imbalance, etc., and I suppose that it could be true. Yet when a person still behaves bizarrely as an adult without seeking help, I don't have much sympathy for them. I am a very happy, well-adjusted person now, (although my children don't have a ton of restrictions on them because I'm always mindful of just allowing them to be children as a result of my childhood), but I do sometimes feel as if this person stole my childhood, ya' know? But that was then, and this is now so I do TRY to forgive and forget. But if I'm being honest, I haven't done either of those things completely especially because of the effect that it had on my mother. She still cries about those times, and it kills me when she does because I can't change it for her.
Thank you for your kindness, Sheromom. They were very tough times, and when my sibling finally went away, I went through a period of guilt because I was happy about it. But after that guilt wore off, I was just plain happy. It felt like my life had started all over again. And honestly, stuff like that DOES make you stronger. That, and my immense love for and focus on my own children are the good things that have come out of a bad situation.
Thanks for asking, Sheromom, and I'm sorry to go O/T here. I just wanted to show that even with my family's situation, when it got to the point that my family didn't know where my sibling was, they did the only thing left to do to keep tabs on the whereabouts. Sometimes you've gotta' do what you've gotta' do.
ETA: I went back and edited the section with the personal experiences for reasons of anonymity, mainly for that sibling, believe it or not. So if you notice things missing, you're not crazy!!