NC Wanted
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Exclusive: Part 1 Raven Abaroa Unedited (Part B)
Raven: Umm, you know, ah I, I think, I don’t know how this comes ah physical attraction is important to me, Janet used to always give me a hard time about this umm, you know, and, and I said that’s the first impression so you have to, it’s not being vain or anything but you know it’s the first impression and so you know, that first impression of her was she was very attractive. Umm, second was she was very intelligent like umm, you know, 4.0 student, ah, very dedicated to her studies and she didn’t horse around a lot and that was important to me because I didn’t horse around a lot either growing up and it, it kind of you know, when ever you, you meet someone who, I don’t know, you don’t know if you can trust them type of thing well with Janet there was an immediate trust. Like I knew that she was sincere when she said she was interested in me or she wanted to go out and I, and I felt like you know, I, I, I could just trust everything in her I could tell her anything and I wasn’t afraid that she was go you know, tellin’ the whole world about you know, me. And so that was, that was a big big thing was trust. Umm, there was a really good chemistry with us, we seemed to be able to play off of each other ah really well umm, as people in college said umm, you know, Janet was very quiet and reserved I was really out going but when you brought us together it really umm, offered a good balance umm, and so there was, there was definitely that aspect there. Umm, I needed help with Spanish and she was really good at Spanish so she’d helped me with my Spanish class. That wasn’t a reason but she was good at Spanish and ah umm, she was a really good soccer player. I honestly never thought that I would marry or date a soccer player umm, ‘cause they’re pretty rough you know, around the edges and stuff and, and she wasn’t, she was ah, she’s really good at soccer so it was nice to have somebody to go kick the soccer ball around with and umm, she, she was a very very good listener and me being a big talker umm, you know, I lo, you know after every soccer game I would want to talk about everything that happened in the game and she would sit there and just let me talk and let me talk and that was, that’s a huge thing for someone to sit there and, and I know because I’ve you know, dated lot’s of people and it’s , it’s, I don’t think anyone’s listened to me the way that Janet listens to me and it, it was really comforting and umm, she would let me tell my stories and even if I ah, you know, sometimes it like man did you see that move that I did or did you see when I did this or that and she would say yeah that was, you know that was awesome and she’d let me relive all the highlights of the game and I just always thought that was that was fun and umm, we could just spend hours together and we wouldn’t have to say a lot and it was just comfortable so, that was another trait is again that just, there is a huge level of comfort umm, with her. We shared a lot of the same goals in terms of what we imagined our kids to be like and what we imagined our home to be like, where we would travel. A lot of that stuff was very similar so
Callie: I mean your, your interests ‘cause I remember you saying she was into cars too and the fact that you were both into soccer and both into cars
Raven: Yeah, let me, let me correct you on that one. I, I thought I was into cars ‘cause I knew a good looking car when I saw one, but I didn’t know anything about cars or stereo’s you know, my first stereo I bought for my $400 jalopy car that I bought umm was like $70 at Walmart, and it had you know, this crappy little removable face and I thought that was cool well umm, she was really, she knew her stuff about cars and so she definitely put me in my place when I was tellin’ her about my car and she wanted to know the engine size was. I don’t know, is it a stick, no it’s an automatic it’s easier to drive. What kind of stereo does it have, you know, it had like a nice Eclipse stereo in it that I bought for maybe $400 but it had, didn’t have speakers, didn’t have amps. All these things that Janet was like, what size speakers to you have, what size amp do you have? Ah, I don’t have any. Is it leather? No. So she was more into cars than I was, but yeah, the definitely you know interest that we shared in. Umm, we, you know after we were married she, she reads all the time and I would like to read all the time but I can’t find the time to read. Usually reading books puts be to sleep and so talk about a balance, she would actually read to me and so I would get really into these books that she was reading and we would take turns reading chapters and that made it a lot easier to, to read when she’d read the chapter and I could just sit there and let my imagination you know, play out the scene that she’s reading and then I can read a chapter and she can listen to me and umm, so it was just funny how… I, I don’t know, maybe other couples do that but for me it was just, it was perfect, like we, we had, you know, I loved cooking but I didn’t like cleaning. Well Janet would you know, I would cook dinner and I would use every dish in the house to make a meal and umm, then I would want to eat while the meal was still warm. Well you know, the balance was, I would be cooking and Janet would be cleaning up behind me and so that you know, everything was clean by the time we were done umm, you know, something that I think really shows another balance between us is I don’t remember doing more than maybe you know, a handful of loads of laundry the entire time we were married. And it’s not that Janet’s place is in the laundry room it was, you know, that’s not what I’m saying, I’m just… she loved doing laundry. I, I would have to help fold it but she loved, you know, that was her thing to do laundry and so she would always do the laundry and then I would always fold it and that was just you know, how things kind of worked. But it was never, we never had to sit down and establish what the rules were or what do you like or what do you not like. It just worked out you know, and that’s how, that, I mean the chemistry was, was always there so it was umm, it was pretty cool.
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