How does the A's not fit the bill as having a missing child? Caylee is missing and presumed dead (albeit the A's don't want to accept that). Whether Caylee is missing at the hands of KC (and I believe that 100%) or a stranger/babysitter, she is still a "genuinely" missing child and they deserve to be at this commemoration just as much as any "geniunely" missing childs family, IMO. What sets Caylee's missing persons status aside from the others? They are all MISSING!
As for the 'searches' or lack thereof: if the A's or whoever is paying PI's to search, then they are technically searching (albeit from the comforts of their home). It may not be our definition of searching, but it is still searching nonetheless. Honestly, if Caylee were my child, I would have used the media to my advantage - public pleas, etc. Also, I would have been on the next plane to wherever I wholeheartedly believed Caylee was at (as would most everyone - channeling Beth Twitty here). I think that the fact that they haven't hopped a plane speaks volumes at their beliefs.
No amber alert was given because of the delay in reporting. And not only that, there is no description of the "kidnapper" or their vehicle. Although, I think the "kidnapper" is a 5'4"ish brunette with brown eyes who drove a 2-door white pontiac sunfire with a black bra on it (oh wait, she's in jail).
I just don't think they want to 'accept' that Caylee is gone. Again, I can't blame them.
Bree---if you read my post, for the most part, I agree with you as a complete outsider without a missing child. In this case, however, someone has been indicted and as a direct relative of the As, it's a matter of not telling. You know, for the first 31 days and ever since.
If you don't see a difference between say Polly Klass, Adam Walsh, and Caylee then that makes all the difference. Yes, the first two are dead. They were initially missing. Frantic parents, polygraphs, media---MISSING!! Caylee. Not so much.
Fbi reports (and what KC knows).....that's what differentiates this case and after reading about your friend, which is gut wrenching and GENUINELY missing....well, Caylee is different and the chloroform, hair bands, etc spell that out. 17.5 years from now, I don't believe Caylee will walk through the door, Why? She's not missing......her body just hasn't been located and the evil person who disposed of her like trash won't tell on herself.
You say if Caylee were your child you would have used the media to your advantage----well, UNLESS you didn't want her found at this point because you know......
Whether or not the As search from their couch, can you verify that they have appealed to a kidnapper or indicated Caylee has wandered off and is missing? It's not up to me to invite or disinvite them to a commemorative event, but with the media (and yes, the dollars they have made from their exploits) searching for this "missing" child should be a given. I'd imagine the other parents at the event would
wish the same.
The problem in your post is the problem the As faced at the event in question---the Amber alert. I *know* why there was no Amber alert
and so do the other 13 families. That is what distinguishes the "missing" part of the whole event.
I am not an Anthony-basher, but didn't they turn it into a "vanity-event?" Ya know--we can't accept it so we label our grandchild as missing, even though, cough, we know. Is that fair to the other families who were present or the hundreds of families without the media coverage? How many people have to be hurt by their lack of grieving? Is it up to the world to accomodate whatever it takes to get them through the process?
There granddaughter is "missing" because their daughter chooses to lie. They haven't asked her, they will not will they visit her in jail and insist on the truth. I am sure most of the families present yesterday wish it were so simple. I am all about grieving, but why demoralize real people with children who are genuinely missing?
With the media appearances, money, and all the As have access to, why not let people with missing family members have the spotlight? Again, I am happy for the UNINTENDED consequence of the As...to put this event in the news....but make no mistake, in their world, it's still all about them and THAT is what's wrong with their appearance at this event.
