Someone posted that he idealized his jeep, and the thread closed before I could comment that, he also "idealized" Jesus, and family ect... and he ditched those easily enough....This would also be in keeping with making E feel powerful, AND Beholden!. (I ditched my family for you, I ditched my reputation, my jeep ect... ( mis-placed guilt is a powerful thing!)
I strongly believe he is wanting her to think that she is calling the shots here...The more she believes that HE is the Victim, of HER problematic life in his wanting to save her, the more she will feel responsible the out come of this travesty. what a piece of work this TOD is...( I cannot call him what he really is anymore.).