I agree, and I also believe he was emotionally abusive. He sounds so much like my ex that it's scary. Luckily I finally got away from my ex. He was a very manipulative sociopath. Rafferty sounds so much like him that it makes me wonder what I didn't know about my ex. *shudder*
I get really angry when I hear people shaming these women for their choices. We don't know them, or what they've been through in life. It's sad that our society still values women in relation to their ability to benefit men. This escort thing is just the extreme end of things, but it's pervasive. You can tell how sexist it all is by imagining that all the players in this case are the opposite gender. Seems ludicrous, doesn't it?
In ways, he reminds me of many of my exes. Especially my child's father/spermdonor. I have gotten to a place in my life where I can smell abuse before it even happens.
Many people seem to fail to understand depression and loneliness, and the situations it can get one into. And how hard it is to get out of those situations. A lot of poor decisions are made under these circumstances. Some people are ridiculously strong and can stand up to death threats (and attempted murder.... but I won't elaborate on that...). And I have tremendous respect for those people.
Moving on, psychology is an interesting thing. I can not afford to go to university to take psychology classes (or I would). I do own many, many textbooks on the subject (hooray for thrift stores), and it fascinates me, whether applied to myself, or to others. There are so many variables that one needs to take into account in order to even begin to understand the situation of another. One can not think in relation to one's self. One has to think outside the box, for a lack of a better term at 5am. I even find myself understanding TLM, of all people, due to not just what I have read, but what I have been through. Obviously, it is just my opinion. Unprofessional opinion. But what somebody has been through in life can have a terrifying impact on their state of mind, which, in turn, has a terrible impact on their actions and choices. Don't take this as me defending TLM. I am absolutely not. No matter how unwell she is. But everything she has said, truth or lie, makes perfect sense when thinking "outside that box". And all the evidence presented against the accused to date is painting a very clear picture in my mind. An extremely terrifying picture. A picture of a man attracted to single mothers... you may fill in the blanks here...
*sigh*
(everything is my own opinion... and I should go to bed at this point... forgive any typos and grammatical errors... ahh, insomnia)
ETA: one of the reasons I have taken interest in this case is, as a mother, this is my absolute worst nightmare. I remember the first picture I have seen of Tori. She was wearing a purple Disney Princess shirt. At the time I saw that picture, my blonde little girl was wearing the exact same shirt. And I burst into tears. It frightened me beyond words. That could have been my girl. And if TLM was telling the truth, that Tori was too old... it really could have been my girl, as she is a few years younger. As much as I hate hearing the details of this case, I feel that I, as a mother, owe it to Tori. To her parents, her family, to all the other children who have met the same fate that Tori has. I may not want to know, but I NEED to know. It is important. Protecting my daughter is important. Protecting the children of others is important. Children are important. Period.
ETA again: It is amazing how much impact one child can make. I just wish she was alive.
When I was a kid, I had an older friend. We didn't always play together, but we lived nearby and she was always watching out for me (the neighbourhood bully-target). About the same age gap between my girl and Tori. Tori seems like the kind of kid, from everything I have heard about her, that I would be glad to have my daughter be friends with. Just a beautiful little person...