There is so much social pressure to make your marriage work.... I can't begin to tell you the feelings, emotions and blatant expectations to be married you have in the church. You are treated as an outcast if you are an adult and you are single. It's one reason why so many of the young men and young women are becoming inactive, they simply don't believe in the "must get married to a return missionary as soon as you finish your first year of college". Do you know how many freshman females are at BYU and other church affiliated colleges that never return after their first year? I don't, but I bet it's very high. My X (returned from his mission) first year at BYU met a girl, asked her to marry him in a couple of months (in the Temple) and then he asked her to quit college and get a job to support him through his bachelor's and then through BYU Law School. Even after he finished Law School, he asked her to keep working until he could find "the right" job which happened to take 4 years. After a total of 17 years and one child with a VERY abusive husband, he managed to get out pretty clean. No spousal support, joint custody and still had his temple recommend so he could find another victim. Then we as women in the church are not told about the abuse. Luckily I got out barely with my soul but completely financially drained and he's on to his third victim. He just got remarried to another SLC lawyer, 42 never married, no children thinking she is vulnerable and will accept the abuse he dishes out. One day either she is going to kill him or he is going to kill her. But the cycle continues and no one in the church stops the abuser from continuing the cycle. They almost enable it.
It really depends on the individual bishop as to how "in touch with the spirit" and how smart they are. My X did what's called "ward shop". When he divorced wife #1, he went to different wards and decided (I kid you not) which ward had the bishop that would put up with his behavior. Now we are supposed to go to the ward that is designated for the neighborhood we live in but somehow he got a "special allowance" to go to a different ward (tolerant bishop) because he said he had to pick up/deliver his child at a certain time on Sunday evenings with the x-wife. Well come to find out, both of those wards, the one he wanted to get in and the one he actually resided geographically in had services at the same exact time on Sundays so he was full of *^%$#. The Stake President though (one level higher than a bishop) is the same Stake President that he got away with the abuse in "church court" with. Soo.... now the current bishop has his number but X moved to Utah. After they took his temple recommend away (for 1 yr) with us (church court again!!) he moved in with his old law school buddy who guess what??? Just happens to be a bishop and gave him back his temple recommend. (That should have never happened) But hey, you really need a temple recommend if you intend to date in the church. It kinda says "I'm a good guy". Listen carefully..... that is the perfect tool for a psychopath..... it's also evil... I'm certain that Josh has been feeding his bishop more than just pancakes.....
Thank you for all you do Patty!!!!!!!!!
Psychopaths would not have close friends. They would only be close to the family that raised them. That would be Mr. and Mrs. Frankenstein in this case.....
No and neither does the Muslim religion....
