Haha right?! He died in April of 08, and my husbands moms side came looking in July of 08, that's too close to comfort for me.
So I received all the papers today that the aunt had.
I have a missing person report, with the name of the detective, I am going to call them on Monday.
I have the two reports that the sister and mother made. It's so interesting to read because it's not how my husband remembers his father.
His dad is painted as an alcoholic, physical and emotional abuser, we are not discounting that at all, it was just shocking, especially my husband said he doesn't remember any of that and he does have some memories with his mom in them. It seems the dad made it hard for her to see him, but my husband said that as he got older, his dad asked "do you want to find mom, let me know, I will do everything I can." Does this mean he wasn't involved in her disappearance, not necessarily, maybe this was his diversion. The thing is his dad was such a doting dad, he didn't beat him, I never saw him drink. My husband and his dad were sooo close, they did everything together, it was a lot when we first started dating because his dad was always a huge factor in it.
I can upload the papers if anyone wants to read them, I can cross out names.
So another interesting thing is that the mom said that my husbands mom tried to commit suicide to see if the father would do anything, apparently he didn't so she took herself to the hospital, leaving my husband, I am not sure if she left him alone or not. If the father was so abusive, maybe this is why he got custody of him and not the mom?
Also she had gotten into a fight with her landlady the same week she went missing. She had spoken to her mom, said she was coming to stay out east with them ( we live on Long Island) and then never showed. They went to her apartment and her overnight bag was missing and her pocketbook, but she never picked up her last paycheck, and she left jewelry and photos behind.
Now my first instinct is to say she met with a bad ending. Her SS papers don't show anything as far as work past 1984, did something happen that one night? Or did she get into a fight with my husbands dad, hop on a train out of town and never look back? I messaged the aunt and I am going to see what she has to say.
Another thing to the story, his dad's side is not close to my husband at all. Him and his dad lived with his grandmother, the day he buried his dad, as my husband is holding his grandmothers hand helping her cross the street, she turns to him and says " You know you have to move out right" They were downright nasty to him, and look I don't know the relationships, but my husband is a good guy, and I am not just saying that. He is personable, he's friends with everyone, he's considerate, so why do these aunts want no contact with him. Our kids do not have any family on his side because they just show no interest, why? This is the grandmothers only great grandchildren. Should I message the bad aunts and be like, hey explain to me what is going on.
If you read this much, thank you!