We may associate Fd's behavior in Family Court to a 3 year old toddler. (I am currently rearing one and therefore my brain immediately goes there)
A 3 year old will push the boundaries to see what they can get away with. The More you give the More they want.
Every single time that an adult eventually gives in to a 3 year old toddler pitching a fit, Absolutely Emboldens the child to do or have whatever he/she wants and whenever they want. Why? Because there are Never any Consequences.
IF a 3 year old toddler Never receives training, requirements, boundaries, rules, guidelines, expectations, and consequences, then they will Absolutely become like the Fd's of this world.
It might take a time or two, but a toddler Will get the message, especially if the message is implemented on Day ONE.
Every single time that the Family Court Judge allowed Fd to Ignore Court Orders, Fd pushed the boundaries further and further.
Does this Embolden someone like Fd? Absolutely.
With Family Court, What Is The Point in Issuing a Court Order if the Judge Is NOT Going to Enforce The Order?
Fd has even been a no-show in the same court on multiple occasions, and Each and Every Time, he is Not even Chastised. We have seen it in Civil Court, as well.
How Many Chances Is Fd Supposed to Get?
How Many Chances do everyone on this thread give their child or grandchild before implementing the consequence?
In my house, we try and state our expectations Before there is an issue. The children are informed of the consequence if the expectation is not met. From that time forward, the child's action will result in the consequence and the consequence will increase for every subsequent infraction of the same issue. If the issue has not been addressed beforehand, then we address the issue and inform the child that next time there will be a consequence. They Definitely get the picture after having just 1-2 consequences. We use the One Minute Per Age Time Out method with the younger children and it works beautifully.
Fd was Court Ordered to submit Accurate Financials in Family Court, at least 3 times and never received an 'incentive' to comply and therefore Never complied.
Fd was Court Ordered to Maintain the Family Health Insurance and Never received an 'incentive' to comply and therefore Never complied.
Fd was Court Ordered to keep MT from participating in his visitations and he Never received an 'incentive' to comply and therefore Never complied.
Fd was Court Ordered to participate in Family and Individual Counseling and Never received an 'incentive' to comply and therefore only marginally, perhaps 5% complied.
Fd was Court Ordered to attend Parenting Classes and Never received an 'incentive' to comply and Refused to comply for at least 10 months. He did receive a bit of a 'normal' incentive in that he was barred from all contact with the children during the 10 months.
However, and this is a HUGH However, Fd is Not Normal and he was ABSOLUTELY FINE with the No Contact with his children. He did Not Care about the Children and therefore it was Not an 'incentive' for him.
What Loving Parent Chooses to go without at least communicating with their children for 10 months when it is absolutely within their power to have contact?
We hear Fd testify in Civil Court that his choice to not have contact with his children was because he 'respectfully disagreed with the Judge'. Really??? That was His Excuse for Not being there for his children?
IMO, the only reason Fd may have eventually and very marginally complied after 10 months, was that he needed access to the children because he Thought he would have access to their Trust Funds.
So in March of 2019, just 2 months before JFd is murdered, Fd's visitation is reinstated although having the most restrictive visitation possible, barring no visitation at all.
Statistics may show that the odds of JFd still being alive, may not have been in her favor.
However, there Is a Possibility that they Could have been in her favor had Fd been held Accountable for his actions/non-actions in Family Court, from Day ONE.
Had Fd been held accountable, the Divorce could have been completed in less than a year. Why is this important?
What we saw in AW3 was the fact that Fd's Financial House of Cards had started to Tumble in late 2018 and basically Unrecoverable in Early 2019, without an influx of a tremendous amount of money.
Fd needed money and he needed it now. Had the Divorce already been finalized within 8-10 months, then there is a good possibility that JFd Could still be alive.
Why you ask?
The divorce had been in process for almost 2 years, but we do not see Fd Murder JFd until his US Financial House of Cards came tumbling down in 2019. Yes, I say US because I do believe he has money in Greece. (How can he afford 5 attorneys and all the bonds, without it?)
WHAT Changed from the time in 2018 that he was barred from visitation to 10 months later in March 2019? Fd waited 10 Months, during which time Fd did not even petition the Court to reinstate his visitation.
Fd was pleading poverty in Family Court for 2 years. So, If Fd accessed the money in Greece during the divorce, then his poverty stance would be exposed.
Therefore, his Financial Mistakes in Building 5 Unsalable McMansions that are listed at well above the Market, become his achilles heal as more and more debts are incurred. Again, he cannot access the Money in Greece because it will show him to be a Liar in Family Court.
If the Divorce had been completed in early 2018, then Fd would have been able to access the funds in Greece and pay all the debts by 2019. Unfortunately, Fd was Greedy in Family Court and he will end up loosing Everything because he did not want to pay child support.
It really is That simple. Yes, I know. He also wanted the Children's Trust Funds. Which makes him something beyond an Idiot, since the Trusts are 100% Protected from the likes of Fd. IMO.
In early 2019, Fd was Financially at the point of No Return. Fd did the minimum to reinstate supervised visitation to either try and gain full custody of the children and therefore perceived access to the Trust Funds, and/or to murder JFd and receive full custody of the children, by default. It is All about the money with Fd.
Even if there was just a 1% chance that JFd would still be alive due to a Judge Enforcing their Orders, then that is enough in my book to absolutely expect Judges to Enforce their Orders and Impose Consequences.
I want that % of a chance, that JFd could still be alive and loving her 5 beautiful children.
As a Citizen of the State of Connecticut, I Demand That Percentage.
IMO and with a Moo Moo here and a Moo Moo there.
