Woe.be.gone
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Okay, but then bringing the above into the Casey Anthony situation, that would mean that as a small child Casey never got her needs met by either George or Cindy?
Based on how they obviously adored Caylee, spent time with her and were interested in her, I would find it difficult to believe that neither of them cared much about their own children.
Oh, and on the when did George know about the pregnancy, I felt that whole story he told was a lie. During the same statement where he said he knew about it in April or May he said his reaction was that he was "over the moon with happiness". Remember taht whole passage? It was kind of ludicrus, given the circumstances of your 19 yr. old unmarried daughter announcing - or in this case, admitting - that she's pregnant.
Now, I do think this family has been "weird" for a long time. All of them, including Lee. But for some reason I don't think things were that weird when Lee and Casey were really young.
Regarding the "never got her needs met by GA and CA" is not exactly what I meant. KC certainly had her needs met by her parents as far as physical needs (housing, food, finances, cothing, toys etc). I believe the needs they met were needs that reflected back onto them in a positive way (ie: cute clothing purchased by CA to look "perfect" to others). But emotional needs, like recognizing KC's true emotions and responding to them appropriately. For instance, again the video of Caylee snuggling with GGP, it wasn't Caylee's or GGP's need for Caylee to hug and kiss him. There was no need to do anything but just enjoy those moments between this little one and her elderly Papa, but CA had a need she could not override and forced Caylee to stop her own emotional feelings and natural interaction w/GGP to comply w/CA's demand to hug and kiss. In that interaction, Caylee and GGP then had to stop their sweet moment of relationship to comply w/CA's need. This demand of "performance" from CA was not for the benefit of GGP or Caylee, it was purely to meet CA's need. A need for Caylee to perform for her. If a pattern of behavior overtime is established, where each time CA sees someone else's emotions don't fit w/CA's agenda, CA's agenda will always override KC's eventually. I think this speaks to the interaction between KC and her Mom in jail. "Will somebody just let me (speak/feel)?" In essence, KC may have grown up in a house w/an extremely "esteem sensitive" parent who feels their child must look perfect at all times in order for the parent to look perfect to the outside world. It is all about how they think others will perceive them (narcissism). The child is a reflection of themselves.[/QUOTE]
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Definitely food for thought. Also those actions bleed into the no boundaries subject of human behavior along with the controlling natures some people have.
I'm thinking about how best to instruct a child then. How many times I've innocently said "give _____ a hug" with both subjects standing right in front of me. Possibly, I should have consuled the child in the car on the way to where we were going by suggesting that if he feels comfortable I'm sure Grandma or Auntie, would appreciate a warm hug from him. There are probably degrees of right and wrong, overkill, etc. When the child is very young a prompting to say "thank you" when handed something by another is probably okay. Modelling good behavior is always okay but I think needs to be reinforced with conversations about what good behavior is, why we need good behavior in regards to how it benefits you individually and how it benefits others, etc. Young boys are not always great observers imo and prefer to move quickly through events.
Thinking on these things reminds me of feeling uncomfortable when the room goes quiet - someone must break the silence eventually but who, how, when and why? That said, is it polite to get together and expect to be entertained and not contribute? It can be unnerving for a talkative person to sit across from a person who can only muster "yep" and "nope" answers. What I'm getting at is we must become more aware of individual boundaries, temperments that differ from our own, personalities and disorders of such, proper teaching venues and just a general awareness of how our well meaning tendencies may actually be harmful if taken to extremes. I swear, at my age, I have never truly assessed these things before among and within my relations. Homework time.