Although I'm personally am not a religious person, I do not think it was an odd expecatation that Susan had that her husband would return to his previous church membership as a criterion for her to stay within the marriage. Obviously, he has the right to say he is not interested. They were married in a religion which has certain beliefs about marriage, and although some people feel it is wrong for Susan to expect Josh to be active in their Church, that is the person she committed herself to. If Josh has grown apart - then she has the right to say that she is not going to stay in the marriage. (In my opinion there were many other reasons to leave)
Its not unlike a person who has a partner who has been unfaithful to them. Would their expectation not to cheat on them be considered setting goals for the other person? Or would it be setting your own personal boundary and stating that I will not stand by you if you continue to betray me.
I think everyone establishes their own boundaries for what is acceptable to them in a relationship, so if they are stating that another person's behavior is causing them to reconsider being with them then I think it is a fair call to make to tell the person what they expect from them.
The other person may not like having standards impose on them, and if they are not willing to live up to those standards then I think they should be ready to move on to another relationship that is more conducive to their lifestyle.
Its not unlike a person who has a partner who has been unfaithful to them. Would their expectation not to cheat on them be considered setting goals for the other person? Or would it be setting your own personal boundary and stating that I will not stand by you if you continue to betray me.
I think everyone establishes their own boundaries for what is acceptable to them in a relationship, so if they are stating that another person's behavior is causing them to reconsider being with them then I think it is a fair call to make to tell the person what they expect from them.
The other person may not like having standards impose on them, and if they are not willing to live up to those standards then I think they should be ready to move on to another relationship that is more conducive to their lifestyle.