No abuse but, please, disabuse yourself of the notion that everyone in authority wears a halo, lp.
In our case, that was simply not true. I went looking for help quite a few times and was ignored or disbelieved even when reporting my own, and my sons, injuries. We survived but only just. And not with the help of police although they were very quick to attend and charge my ex-partner when he damaged FaCS property by kicking in my front door and assaulted a male friend of my brothers (who, by the way, received a tidy sum in VoCs compensation). By the way, I called them.
The only help anyone in authority ever gave me was a house in an area distant from my birth family and a s***load of prescription drugs to help me to cope until I could move after we were the victims of domestic violence. Those drugs resulted in a 10+ year addiction, some loss of memory and a very painful withdrawal. Not to mention years of not being able to truly bond with my (now adult) children. Instead, I was an automaton who worked 9 to 5 for just enough money to cover the additional expenses incurred by working and ran myself into the ground, resulting in a mental illness. And I wont go into how I was blamed after being diagnosed or how my childrens and my relationships are still affected.
So, the life you describe is not normal for some sections of the population. That is a generalisation. And even in those rare cases where antisocial behaviour has become normalised, those families and communities, and the people residing in them, have been neglected for many, many years. For a current example of this, just look at any of the social housing estates here, or overseas.
Nor are the lives of welfare-receiving, single parents it all wine and roses; as Katrina has suggested.
Effectively addressing and countering the effects of developmental, social and generational trauma (also known as Complex Trauma Disorder) in childhood by truly helping those affected including those childrens parents, would go a long way to solving the problem, rather than adding to their suffering by further pathologising them and tearing families apart permanently. Otherwise, those in authority are neglecting their responsibilities (ie; duty of care) and future generations will reap what they sow.
All in my humble opinion, of course
That's very sad Bo. (((hugs))). Onwards & upwards though and have found in this life you can either sink or swim. Prayers for you to get through all of this and eventually heal the wounds.
In the BBM, are you referring to what i stated about the Govt. funding of single parents. I wasn't trying to suggest it's wine & roses, but i think it encourages young people to make poor choices at a very young age. Young teenage mothers when perhaps they might do better at furthering their education instead of perhaps taking on roles of parenting they are not ready for, etc.
