I can't speak to MIL bad relationships personally, I know many of my female friends have or have had fraught ones but I haven't personally but I just wanted to make a point about the
bib above because it also related to a point in
@katydid23 's post earlier. ( quoted at the bottom)
VI isalybra - couldn't speak to any separation rumours ( katydid's reference on separation) just as other close friend NUA couldn't ( CW's mention of it to her was the first she had heard of it , on the Monday, despite being close and being with her all weekend)
The
victim's own voice = so excited to be going home after her long NC vacation
However the perp's
version included separation.
What's my point?
It's that we are all, always picking and choosing our own preferred versions, all the time.
If we're going to make the victim's own voice the "benchmark" we have to note that she was happy & things were good in her marriage and that benchmark would then logically need to be applied to a very many topics that many members have already queried incl income & finances too. (I don't want to belabour the point but with that in mind, we couldn't query income/finances & we'd then have to extrapolate to other topics where SW's voice was
the benchmark.)