I feel sick about this. I wish they'd find him.
Mike was physically abusive to me in the first years of our marriage. He quit 2-3 years into our 10 year marriage. His parents knew, authorities in our church knew, a church social services counselor knew. But they all just thought Mike was such a nice guy. And I guess my dissatisfaction made me seem like the "crazy" one. Poor Mike. I'm angry and sad, and wish any of those people who were told--by both Mike and myself--that he had been hitting me, had intervened at the time. I wonder if it would have made a difference, and if his third wife and who knows what-number mistress/girlfriend and her daughter would be alive.
I never heard that Mike was physically abusive to either of his other subsequent wives, or anyone else. A short while after our divorce, my youngest son told me that Mike had hit him. I had sole custody, and I told Mike that he wasn't allowed to physically discipline the boys. They would have been somewhere between 8-10 years old. The boys told me, after that, that Mike sat them down and said that what happened at their house wasn't to get told outside the house. I think it was a "spanking," not a beating. But, other than that incident, I never heard of Mike being physically abusive or violent toward anyone aside from myself.
I've had to remember some harsh times with Mike, and people I went to for help, with these murders happening. Again, it makes me feel sick.
Remember, though, that I was divorced from Mike in 1988, so the physical abuse in our marriage was more than 35 years ago. For me, it's sickening still--even without the fact that he's wanted for murder.
