carbuff
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LOL thanks for the explanation but I'm still confused. Does that mean that at some point, a maternal ancestor's father was fooling around on the side?
LOL thanks for the explanation but I'm still confused. Does that mean that at some point, a maternal ancestor's father was fooling around on the side?
LOL thanks for the explanation but I'm still confused. Does that mean that at some point, a maternal ancestor's father was fooling around on the side?
That could be a scenario, along with countless others.Ahhh, okay, that's very interesting.
So like teen mom gives baby up for adoption, then later marries somebody else would also fit?
If there's a situation with a single mother of a child with no father listed on the birth records, would that be an NPE or not, because there is no attributed father?
Yeah there have been some stories in national magazines about people coping with situations like that. It sounds like a terrible thing to have to go through.
One genetic genealogist said she now has to warn all her clients of the possibility they may find out their father isn't their father before she starts her research. That's how often she's been encountering it. And I also read some family DNA sites set up hot lines to deal with distraught customers who find out a family secret, it's become so common.
I read this one wild story where a woman was gifted a 23&Me, or similar, DNA kit and tested her DNA, only to find that who she thought was her father, was, but who she thought to be her mother was not a match. Turns out, she and her mother were the victims of a custodial kidnapping when the OP was a baby, and she was raised by an abusive "mother" who she had no genetic relation to and was led to believe was her flesh and blood. Just goes to show that apparently fathers aren't the only ones who might not be the expected parent, apparently!
Is there such a thing as a NPE for the maternal side? What if MC was born to one woman, but kidnapped by Terry and raised with another woman? (Well...in this case, the woman probably would have been Marlyse, and she wasn't listed as MC's mother, but what if it was another woman?)
@Alleykins -- yup. In one of my lines, I'm pretty sure that the second wife arrived in America, the first interred in Ireland.
When family naming patterns include 4 first names for males, and seriously 3 for females, yeah you'll see this stuff.
The more traumatic the times, the fewer the records for the most part.
Sigh.
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i know several ppl this has happened to and none took it very well.I feel bad for the folks in recent generations who are getting blindsided with the fact the man who raised them isn't their biological father.
I imagine it's a blow to the dads who had no clue the child wasn't theirs and then they find out, too, especially if the child was conceived during their marriage.
i have a sister and brother, too. i knew about them but didnt meet them until 2016.Then there's also the issue of children finding out about secret or unknown siblings. At least I had an idea there were more spawn out there, my father used to brag about his fecundity, so it was no big surprise when they started popping out of the woodwork, thanks to these DNA kits. But even knowing hasn't made it any easier. My recently discovered older half brother had a really crappy childhood and could have used our moral support, but our father & his mother robbed him of that connection with their deception. And we could have used his, too. My brother used to cry as a kid because he had no brothers, when, in fact, he did. It wasn't fair, all the way around.